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Ever heard of flying? It's quite popular these days

When I was last in Bangkok, April '26 the bangkok symphony orchestra was putting on concerts in Lumphini park on a sunday afternoon. I suspect it doesn't happen year round, but no harm in asking at your hotel reception

I've spent around 14 months in malaysia over the last 2 years, if you are a gay traveller this is not a destination to choose for a gay holiday. Certainly don't go around waving pride flags and shouting your sexuality from the roof tops. Yes, there are people on the apps, you'll likely need a vpn to access the apps depending on your service provider. Malaysia is a majority-Muslim country with Islam as the official state religion. That should tell you all need to know. Venues have been raided and arrests made in the time I have been here. They make it very public when such an event occurs. When I am here I live in on a small residential estate, in an apartment given to us to live in rent free by my husbands chinese family, we have to make up the story that we are just friends, living in a 3 bed apartment, but that doesn't stop the gossip and rumours about me being a bad man and I should not be trusted. It's very handy that my Husband understands malay otherwise we would not have heard the rumours about us.

The Quarter by UHD Saladaeng is in my experience, somewhere I will never stay again. It's only merit is it's location. We checked in very much looking forward to our “executive suite’ The last 9 months hadn’t been the most comfortable so anything executive sounded like a win win… We opened the door of the suite to find a very disappointing room. It was large, but really, a table and two old chairs, no sofa, a funny little ‘office desk’ with a fake brass lamp? Are you fucking kidding me? For a month? This place hasn’t seen anything new since 1972… look at the state of it…so tired…. Not executive by my standards…. OK so maybe the hotel photos are misleading on booking dot com and I’m not checking what the room actually has as I hit OK on the checkout. I went down to reception and explained I wasn’t happy, I am here for a month, I’ve just forked out 69.445 baht for this, I want a fucking sofa, we can’t spend a month with just a table and two chairs! The chap at reception understood my dilemma, checked his screen and found us a room much the same but with at least, a window sofa seat kind of arrangement, I didn’t have much choice but to take it…… The laundry is a rip off, I did not like seeing a cockroach among the ham and sauage on my one of two breakfasts, breakfast is fucking disgusting, to put it midly. On a side note, I have seen a number of asian porn movies made in the rooms at the hotel, I recognised the orange window seat and bedroom.

Many thanks. I am and have been working my way through your thread. We've shared a few of the same places to frequent.

Border hop time again. We decided to give Thailand a miss and went for a three month say in DaNang. Getting the visa was easy, online application £20 fee and your details, address flight passport etc etc. Arrived in four days by email. We have rented an apartment on My Khe beach front and the first thing that caught us out was the construstion noise next door, it's been a month of hammer drilling which is now over thank goodness. 8am to 5pm. There are people on YT who suggest noise can be a problem but until you actually arrive at your destination I'm not sure how you can know in advance. Google maps doesn't update often enough to help. The demolished building is still a hotel on google maps. We haven't come for 'Gay Danang' to be honest there's not a lot here for two older men. That said we have found a couple of bars and the Gentlemans sauna HOI AN 'LIVING COLOURS' a very friendly gay bar, we got tipsy there a couple of evenings during our weekend stay, everyone seemed really friendly. It wasn't difficult to strike up conversations and enjoy a few drinks. They do kareoke and drag but not on the nights we were there. The two chaps who run the place are very nice and very friendly, as has been said in thier google reviews. Well worth a visit, we will return. I care about cleanliness behind the bar and the way cocktails are prepared really stood out here. First Class. DANANG QBAR Quite a small bar and not particularly comfortable, the bar staff were very friendly. No draught beer, just cans. We sat outside so we could smoke, inside was busy but not the sort of bar where we found it as easy to chat to strangers as we found at 'Living Colours' A few table and chairs so once seated the patron chatted to themselves, Probably won't go again. It was quite something to be sitting outside smoking and as one barman arrived we heard him announce to his buddy that he did indeed have a UTI. I'm glad it wasn't my slice of lime he manhandled in to a cocktail as I stood at the bar getting my beer. Not overly happy with the standard of hygiene at the small sink behind the bar. The bar is located a 10/15 minute drive from the heart of the touristy beach area. GENTLEMANS SAUNA DANANG. This has mixed reviews on google so here's my honest opinion as a 'sauna whore' for most of my adult life. We went yesterday (saturday) 5pm -8pm it was busy with a wide mix of ages and body types and nationalities. As you enter there are changing lockers to the right, you are only provided with what can best be described as a flannel. No towel to cover your modesty or dry off with at the end of your stay. TOP TIP. Take your own towel for drying off before you leave. The flannel serves no real purpose, I honestly thought it was a bit daft the way chaps were holding said flannel over thier cock as they wander around covering thier modesty. I chose the sluttier option and just wandered naked, doing my best to hold in my beer belly. Fuck it. Lifes to short. It is very dimly lit so it's not like you're walking around stark bollock naked in homophobic lighting. On the ground floor a small steam roon and dry sauna and communal shower area. The small steam room is a classic free for all grope and suck and mingle. It was a constant stream of men in and out, no real action in the sense of 'orgy' but it was busy. The usual rules apply, a gentle removal of an unwanted touch is all that is needed. The two upper floors have a combination of dimly lit single rooms and open larger rooms, the stairs could prove fatal if you're not careful, marble surface and wet flip flops are not a great mix, so take care as it is not well lit. (flip flops provided depending on how you feel about wearing them not knowing who else has worn them) I think being barefoot could prove even more slippery. Once your eyes adjust the lighting is perfect. The chap who runs it is very friendly, there is some refreshment, beer with a ton of ice in it or a soft drink in those dispensers you often see at a large gathering in a restaurant, and some very small plastic cups, and a table with sliced fruit are free. We went by Grab and being modest, not wanting to startle the driver, we chose our drop off point as 'Kims House Homestay' which is just a couple of doors away. We did have a short wait when we Grabbed home as there were not so many drivers available, theres a nice coffe bar on the corner at the end of the street to sit and wait, ALLY COFFE' It's a 15 minute ride from 'tourist central' at the beach where we are staying. We will certainly go back, reviews on google suggest many people don't like being touched in a dark steamroom, I would say to them if that's not your sort of thing then don't go. It's a gay sauna and in all my sauna years I would expect nothing less than some random stranger touching my cock or feeling my butt while jammed up against 10 other men in a dark steam room. Isn't that the whole point? I certainly enjoyed sitting in there stroking the back and butt cheeks of what looked like a very fit korean chap while someone else was sucking his dick. Sounds like a perfect afternoon to me. As for the fun sized japanese daddy licking my nipples and playing with my balls, thank you. Just what I expected. From memory the entrance was about 180k which is ridiculously cheap so don't even begin to complain on your google reviews. Grindr is fairly busy, Hornet less so, we have had several hits during our first month. We haven't taken adavantage of any of those hits on the app but we do like to know what's around us and who is available. One very handsome asian lad offered us sex for 900k in our room promising me that he would sit on my face, and another very fit looking asian lad offered us massage for 1 million! It's possible DaNang has more to offer younger visitors but we wouldn't know as we're not in to nightclubs or dancing so haven't explored that aspect. We're happy with a dark steam room and DaNang certainly has one of those, albiet quite small. It also has to be said that for eye candy Danang is 10/10 Wandering along the beach is mouthwatering, we love nothing more than sitting at the tables of the beach bar which is opposite the NESTA HOTEL with a San Miguel beer (70k) and watch the half naked men play ball. Further north along the beach, maybe a 10 minute stroll, you will find a few muscle boys working out and posing which is a pleasant addition to an evening stroll. I've had some use of the Moreta app to pay in VND but usually choose cash or Wise card, unless it is cash you are going to pay a little extra either way. There is LOCAL PAY app which is widely accepted but from my understanding you have to buy bitcoin to top it up, I'm not up for dabbling in bitcoin so chose not to use it. VP Bank doesn't have withdrawl charges but the ATM's I found were limited to 2 million (Danang and Hoi An) where as if you don't mind paying around £10 in ATM and WISE charge combined I find it easier to use the nearest cashpoint and take out 5 million. The grab ride to my nearest VP ATM is a £5 return journey.... and bear in mind that you only get a couple of charge free withdrawls per month from WISE as it is. We're here until the first week of Sept and then back to Penang, we've decided/booked Chiang Mai for the next border hop in December.

My friend in Pattaya just sent me the link, job done, but thanks for the suggestion. cheers

The park is a real attraction for us. Cats and men in shorts. In malaysia we rescue stray cats that live on our estate, heartbreaking at times but highly rewarding. There's not enough hours in the day for us and cats. Men in shorts by the dozen, what's not to like when you have a shorts and leg fetish..... The only bar we have been to is Infinity on soi4. We like it there. We have been five times in the month. We like going to one place so we become known and feel more 'at home' we don't even have to order drinks, they know what we have, so that's nice. I've always wanted to watch a show but we find the bars a bit loud, perhaps in pattaya we can see a show. We will certainly be doing some sauna crusing.... we were going to sauna here in bkk but looking at the saunas we felt there were too many stairs for hubby and still unsure which was best for us to visit. We have a friend in pattaya so hopefully we can get some sound advice for our month there. I should have added that cruising at central silom mall. I suggested nothing happened inside the mens room, and of course you are right, there is a fair bit of suggestive eye contact and patient waiting at a washbasin or urinal to see if an advance is incoming, so in that sense yes, action. I was going to put a reply to that effect but this will cover it. My only concern would be later in the afternoon there is the possibility of being very aware many younger people leaving school are around so one's behaviour should be kept in mind at that time of day. We were at the baked rice place on the second floor opposite the lifts, with a clear view, we noticed a couple of people going round in circles pretending to look busy, that was 6pm We were at Terminal 21 yesterday and couldn't help but notice some lads spending extended time at the handbasin, in front of the large mirrors, which gave a direct reflection of the urinals.... doesn't take long to work that out....

He couldn't be nicer. He does prefer not to f***k. He's polite and not demanding. We've seen him in soi 4 and central mall. He's quite local to this corner of silom. You can speak quite freely with him about your desires. Even after we said we wouldn't meet again he was still friendly toward us in soi 4

Do we really need this sort of behaviour?

And given that the photo's on booking dot com are quite deceptive, I stupidly assumed the deluxe suite sofa was too big to photograph! 'room service' here is a change of towels and bedding, pop in a new toilet roll, adding two small bottles of water to the fridge and checking to see if you drank the alcohol, then a wipe and dust and quick push with a floor mop. You can put up a do not disturb to avoid the intrusion. The lady who usually does our room is very diligent and very sweet. The apartment we have rented in Pattaya looks much nicer, a proper kitchen, balcony, washing machine, large sofa in the photos, large bed, added bonus, half the price of what we paid for the quarter.

Another mention about facilities at the Quarter, the laundry. If you're staying here a while you will probably want to use it. It's on the second floor. As we speak there are two washing machines and two old tumble driers, only one dryer working while we are here, both were out of action for a week at one point. 60 baht for a one hour cold wash, supply your own detergent. 80 baht for a 45 minute dry, which is near cold, so likely you will need to do two dries if you want proper dry laundry. Change available from reception. Machines only accept 10 baht coins. There is a laundry service and from memory it's around 1200 baht for 20 items, or something like that.

It would seem other folk also need to put up with your rude comments so I am glad I'm not alone in that.

I expect a sofa in an 'executive suite' or at the very least a comfy armchair to relax in, not just a table and two really hard old wobbly dining chairs. We are here for a month, not overnight. I'll forgive your other rude comments this once as you have never met me or my husband. We are paying a little more than 1800 baht a night (rightly or wrongly) but that doesn't excuse not having a place to sit comfortably and watch tv or relax. Checking my booking dot com as I type this, I see I have actually booked a 'one bedroom deluxe suite' The word 'deluxe' suggests some level of comfort... It is supposed to be a four star hotel. So explain to me why I should be happy with just a table and two wobbly hard chairs and no where else to 'deluxe' sit my cheap charlie arse down No sign of a microwave unless I go down to the laundry..... nothing kitchen like in this room apart from a small kettle and fridge. And if you're happy that breakfast includes a swimming contest with a cockroach, fake ham and soggy wet sausages, sitting in warm water, I salute your advanced level of hotel knowledge in BKK