Hi gents,

I don’t regularly use the apps in Thailand… in fact, never have. I want to try to use the apps to attract MBs to approach me as many have recommended. Can you share your tips on how I should set up my profile, what to say/not to say to attract what I’m looking for, and what kind of photos should I share on my profile. Then what’s to process or the “dance” that I should follow once I get a ping. How do I negotiate the deal and how soon do I bring it up.

im planning on using Grindr but are there others that I may consider that are better for this purpose?

 

thanks for your advice!!
 

Moneyboys will say so pretty quick

"I MB u OK?" - negotiate from there.

Share pics that you're comfortable with others seeing. Personally I don't have nudes that show my face

You can put MB welcome in your profile 

When they are messaging  and your unsure if they're mb ask them then say "how much " 

Then ask what they do? 

Top ? Bottom ? 

Then ask the questions about their services 

from time to time my profile says i am 'generous and rewarding'  That's the hook i use when I want a MB to find me.

I prefer being approached rather than make the move for a MB.

I've found Gridr can be picky what 'financial' terms you use when in that MB arena on the app.

Other than that I just list my pervertions and fetishes to see what that attracts.

I don't have face pics on my profile but available to send when I am comfortable.

You should also check out the hornet app, that is quite popular but a little more social than sexual imo

I also have HEEYSAY app here in vietnam.

2 hours ago, durian said:

from time to time my profile says i am 'generous and rewarding'  That's the hook i use when I want a MB to find me.

I prefer being approached rather than make the move for a MB.

I've found Gridr can be picky what 'financial' terms you use when in that MB arena on the app.

Other than that I just list my pervertions and fetishes to see what that attracts.

I don't have face pics on my profile but available to send when I am comfortable.

You should also check out the hornet app, that is quite popular but a little more social than sexual imo

I also have HEEYSAY app here in vietnam.

I'm cautious about  saying 'generous ', a friend  got blocked after saying that. Others i know put a space in the middle of the word!

4 hours ago, durian said:

Other than that I just list my pervertions and fetishes to see what that attracts.

Such as.... 🤔

14 minutes ago, floridarob said:

Such as.... 🤔

Too long a list to put on here!

A tip I have is if you find an MB is to try and get on to another platform asap and don't discuss to much on Grindr. I got banned from the app, and I think it was talking to an MB and discussing Money.

9 hours ago, UKRICK2026 said:

A tip I have is if you find an MB is to try and get on to another platform asap and don't discuss to much on Grindr. I got banned from the app, and I think it was talking to an MB and discussing Money.

That's what I do, try and move to WhatsApp or similar.

Isn't "generous" inviting higher prices?

5 hours ago, 12is12 said:

Isn't "generous" inviting higher prices?

I don't think ' economizing' or ' frugal' would do much to enhance attractiveness of one's profile 

if u are using gay apps to hook up with massage boys, be careful as some of the pictures they will send are not really them !  it happened to me a few times.

Just beware.

 

9 minutes ago, tin_sg said:

if u are using gay apps to hook up with massage boys, be careful as some of the pictures they will send are not really them ! 

This is why I prefer the Hornet app

In the Hornet app you can see a list of his followers which is a good indicator if he is real.

And using the "birds of the same feather flock together"  principle you can see with whom he is associated with, and this is also a good indicator about his authenticity.

Additionally, in the Hornet app each member is assigned a user id by the system, which is searchable and very useful when you want to meetup again with a hot guy. In Grindr there is no such equivalent that I am aware of.

The banning process is less hostile than it is in Grindr.  Who has enough money to buy another mobile phone to restart their Grindr life after being banned?

Lastly, the price for a 1 year subscription in Hornet is about what Grindr costs for 3 months.

 

59 minutes ago, tin_sg said:

be careful as some of the pictures they will send are not really them

Video call before agreeing to meet them.....

1 hour ago, floridarob said:

Video call before agreeing to meet them.....

Please be careful with video calls on the gay pick-up apps.  

More than once I chatted with someone super sexy on Grindr to have them try to get me on a video call and/or move me over to another app to chat more.  I always declined as I was very aware of the https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pig_butchering_scam

I would suggest that you be very cautious - as I have read that these "supposedly sexy guys who want to meet you" are sometimes working in a scam center trying to "pig butcher you" for your eventual financial slaughter via capturing your biometric data.

I'm confused, I watched John Oliver when he did a full main segment dedicated entirely to pig butchering scams. It aired during Season 11, Episode 2 of Last Week Tonight. 

I don't get how a video call relates to that... unless you're prone to falling in love at first site and you decide to take it further than a quick romp?

It's for people that never meet and are usually far away and lonely and need someone to talk to.... or in the case of real people that do meet, one is younger and hook in the older person to invest money on fake shit that they control.

If you're planning on meeting this Grindr hookup anyway, without seeing who it is, to me is more risky.

Now I've heard about a number of blackmail scams... where married, important or closeted people (I'm none of those) are videoed in compromising conversations then asked for money to not publish or send it to someone you know. 

I've had people ask me to do a video call but they block their face or cam and in that case I just hang up and block them, time wasters and probably lonely themselves.

How did I get this far in a post without one emoji 😲

Totally agree on Hornet being the app of choice for MBs

On 8/23/2026 at 8:48 PM, whitemouse said:

I wish I could, I never found a private place but I'm lazy and didn't put much effort.

Connor2025 also did not reveal how he found his place in Hurghada, alltho I asked him. Understandable, this needs to be discreet.. but not a word. 

Finding a private place is the key in Egypt, it is not easy. The only thing to do, book a different place for each night in Hurghada for a week or 2 weeks, you keep moving every morning, it is a pain, but sooner or later you may end up in an apartment where no one is watching. Won't be easy but apparently doable, Connor2025 found a place.

 

13 hours ago, tin_sg said:

if u are using gay apps to hook up with massage boys, be careful as some of the pictures they will send are not really them !  it happened to me a few times.

Just beware.

 

Keep the messages very short on Grindr.

Then move over to WhatsApp for all discussions.

If not sure if their photos are real, ask to do facetime (video call) on WhatsApp, and this should show what they really look like in real time?

If they don't want to do facetime, this is a strong indication that the photos they sent you are fake or they are much different/older than they are saying? 

15 hours ago, vinapu said:

I don't think ' economizing' or ' frugal' would do much to enhance attractiveness of one's profile 

Which is why it's best to write neither "generous" nor the above.

16 hours ago, floridarob said:

How did I get this far in a post without one emoji 😲

you were doing so well that long and you f''''ked it up with that  last sentence

On 8/30/2026 at 4:09 AM, MichaelJay70 said:

Hi gents,

I don’t regularly use the apps in Thailand… in fact, never have. I want to try to use the apps to attract MBs to approach me as many have recommended. Can you share your tips on how I should set up my profile, what to say/not to say to attract what I’m looking for, and what kind of photos should I share on my profile. Then what’s to process or the “dance” that I should follow once I get a ping. How do I negotiate the deal and how soon do I bring it up.

im planning on using Grindr but are there others that I may consider that are better for this purpose?

 

thanks for your advice!!
 

I had both Grindr and Hornet going when I was in Bkk for the weekend, but didn't get any offers or replies to the few messages I sent on there. Will try again on my upcoming trip, but can't give any tips due to what I just wrote lol

12 hours ago, pylonguy71 said:

but didn't get any offers or replies to the few messages I sent on there.

my first reaction , would be cross out that guy and 'hide" him . But now I'm not such extremist after one of my boys showed me how many messages he received since our last meet which was night before. We are talking Januray - high season but still I get that sometimes guys on both sides must be selective as to whom answer first. Aren't we thae same with our e-mails and text messages ?

So my advice is , don't give up, if you like guy , keep trying next time.