4 minutes ago, Slvkguy said:

some guys consistently chase the unattainable or impossible for a variety of reason.  it’s common pattern among gay men

It’s safe to say it’s not healthy & probably results in unsatisfactory long-term outcomes.  Unless the chaser is prepared for the inevitable 

not my idea of a good time, everyone is different  

 

I would argue that this approach awakens the hunter gatherer in us from our jurassic prehistoric man period.

I also had this behaviour, let's call it a "type of sport".  then earlier in life, I dedicated 5 years to therapy (psychoanalysis) to try to understand my need for this exciting but endless hunt.  I learned that it is partly due to the "fear of commitment", so we "hunt" which cannot lead to a committed relationship.  I am not saying that is what may be going on with the OG of this post - but it is what I learned about myself.

Do I still hunt straight guys?  Yes, but way less than before - as I am now aware of what @Slvkguy wrote, "chaser is prepared for the inevitable" - so I now do it more for entertainment purposes.  And after 5 years of therapy - I am also able to maintain a relationship - but as I write this I am currently single - and content and happy.

15 minutes ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

life, I dedicated 5 years to therapy (psychoanalysis) to try to understand my need for this exciting but endless hunt.  I learned that it is partly due to the "fear of commitment", so we "hunt" which cannot lead to a committed relationship

this is what it’s about: self-reflection & doing the work necessary to overcome things that don’t serve us well.

many of us carry trauma from being invalidated, shamed, bullied as young gay boys.  while things are improving for gay youth, when most of us were young, it was beyond brutal. It can be difficult to recognize and address these issues as adults. And you’re right - this may not be the issue w OP.  

I’m happy to hear that you are in a good place.

chasing hot straight guys occasionally can be fun & exciting (hello - I LOVE GP saunas) - but, setting yourself up for a lifetime of disappointments is another thing entirely.

1 hour ago, Boy69 said:

It's beyond my understanding to chase straight guys whom are not interested in dating gay falang and even if they finally agree they are clearly playing 'gay for pay' role and are not enjoying it. 

they may be enjoying it the same way we enjoy our work with view of Thursday cheque  even if we don't like it. 

I'm of opinion repeated  many times that straight guys are trying harder as they know they need to make good impression to stay in business. And when you take them to restaurant or store they make their choices fast.

Once in Pattaya I went with certain Z to buy a shirt as one of mine was soiled with ink. I found one I liked , similar to soiled one , checked size and bought it , all it took was 87 seconds. His comment :   "you are not gay"

45 minutes ago, Slvkguy said:

some guys consistently chase the unattainable or impossible for a variety of reason.  

 

as they say if something is impossible find a person who doesn't know it and he / she will do it

So I finally did it 🥹🥹

 

Last night around 12am, while I was walking on my way to BTS Sala Daeng, I saw this motorcycle taxi guy wearing orange vest. I thought he was cute, I walked past him but returned and asked him if he can take to my condo.

 

I was drunk and stoned already so as soon as we drove off, I confessed to him with my broken thai that I think he is cute then he was just like "Khop khun mak na kap". After a few meters I asked him if he would like to drink with me then he said yes but he has to bring his already drunk friend with us so we went back to BTS Sala Daeng and went together to a street restaurant somewhere along Sathon.

 

They don't speak english at all and my thai is still somewhere in A1 or very beginner level but I was amazed that we were still able to carry out decent conversations. To think, I was already sober the whole time.

 I needed to withdraw money so we (only the guy and I) took his motorcycle and went to the nearest Kasikornbank. There I propositioned that I can give him good tip if he goes to drink with my in my condo. To cut the story short, he agreed to do it for 1500.

 

So we dropped his drunk friend first to their house and he said something in Thai which I couldn't understand but I just said yes. Then we went to this Thai gasoline station and drove straight to the toilet.

 

I thought he was just going to take a pee but then he said that is where we ate going to do it haha damn that was kinky as fuck .. This Thai gasoline station seems to be still open with one only one woman manning and the toilet was just at the side. There's also a gap in the door which would let others see whats going on the inside but fuck it, I have never done it in a public place.

 So he peed first beside me and washed his cock. Then I just blew him there.  He is straight as fuck so we didnt kiss nor didnt even want to touch my Schwanz.

 

Whole thing only last for about 10 minutes and he didnt even bother to take me home haha. I felt kind of ripped off but then again it's all for the experience. That's two of my bucket list right there. Picking up a straight thai guy in Thailand and doing it in a public place 🤣🤣

Reminds me of the guy who’s posted numerous public encounters with Grab drivers on one of the bigger porn sites.

Straight+ public place+ only ten minutes OMG when the romance  had gone these days...

Ten minutes could be considered LT for public encounters 😀

He went from weeks chasing an impossible guy to 10min in toilet hahaha. Id say thats covers everything. He has graduated cruising 101.

11 hours ago, spoon said:

He went from weeks chasing an impossible guy to 10min in toilet hahaha. Id say thats covers everything. He has graduated cruising 101.

To be honest, I haven't moved on from that guy.. I still bought food from him one time, gave him 100 and he gave me a cute shocked look 😌

 

I still greet him whenever I pass by but I try to avoid eye contact with him as much as possible.

 

Project # 2, which is this cute cook in Amarin is still no progress though I gave him 100 tip twice already which could have been quite weird for him since you dont really use cash to pay in Amarin food court. I have no game plan with this guy in all honesty.

 

The whole gogo bar and massage shops have grown on me already. It's just so easy. You go to bar, check if someone's your type and you just pay to bang. The idea of guys doing it with 10000 other customers kills the fun for me too.

 

Cruising (for straight guys) is the complete opposite. It can be very challenging and entertaining. But it is also very tiring (you have to walk a lot to scout for cute guys lol) and can be very disappointing. 

But I enjoy it. I enjoy walking around looking for cute guys. Gives me motivation to learn Thai too. 

 

I am also quite surprised that not a lot forumers here are into cruising (and into straight guys). In another gay forum I was in, this topic is even granulated into cruising for basketball players, models, celebrities, drivers, construction workers, etc..