Trip report April / September 2025 – Da Nang & beyond – Research if an elderly gay retiree can live comfortably in Da Nang, Vietnam

[vinapu]

1 hour ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

I find sunsets to be more romantic than sunrises. 

 

I find paydays even more romantic

[10tazione]

Did you already experience the dragon bridge in action? Fire & water, impressive!

[spoon]

7 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

At my age, I sometimes wake up at the strangest hours to go pee-pee. Sometimes it is during a breathtaking sunrise.

 

Obviously, I go back to sleep.

I find sunsets to be more romantic than sunrises. 

How about you?

Depends on location, when i travel, i always try to do one of each, or at least one if location doesnt permit the other. 

Each has their pro and cons, but generally, i prefer sunset too, easier and more convenient, but sunrise usually more calm and less people around hehe. 

[bkkmfj2648]

7 hours ago, 10tazione said:

Did you already experience the dragon bridge in action? Fire & water, impressive!

Yes. 

The best way (in my opinion) to experience the Dragon Bridge in action, is with a newbie, as they do not yet know what is about to happen to them 💦💦

The look on their face, for me, is more exciting than the actual event 👍🤩

[vinapu]

4 hours ago, spoon said:

Depends on location, when i travel, i always try to do one of each, or at least one if location doesnt permit the other. 

Each has their pro and cons, but generally, i prefer sunset too, easier and more convenient, but sunrise usually more calm and less people around hehe. 

I'm blessed when comes to sunset as I can see it for 3 months in spring and 3 in fall from my balcony. Other 6 months is obstructed by high rises nearby

[bkkmfj2648]

Day 20 in Da Nang – 13 May 2025

 

Breakfast in my room and I prepare and post my 12 May trip report updates.

I also start looking at other AirBnB accommodations to get a feel for the availability – as my current condo contract will end at the end of this month.  I discover, via the AirBnB app, that my condo owner owns 13 units in the building where I am staying.

I discover that she has some really nice other units – BUT – one of my pet peeves are the all-too-common non enclosed shower areas – where the water and soap goes everywhere in the bathroom.  Unfortunately, this is a common practice here and I really do not like it.

The majority (between 70% to 80%) of the AirBnBs that I look at have this type of open shower system.  More than likely, I will just extend my stay for 1 more month where I already am, as it is a great living space, the shower unit is in its own room enclosed in its own glass door area, there is a great work space for my laptop, has 2 bedrooms – of which I use one for my massages.  I need to decide soon – to avoid that someone snatches this condo unit from me.

 

It is now 3ish, and I am hungry for lunch and guess where I go?

Yes – back to Gordon’s New York Bagels shop

Today they are training some new Vietnamese employees and it was very amusing watching them explain:

1.       What is a bagel,

2.       What is the significance of their variations (poppy, sesame seed, onion, etc.).

I would imagine that in the Vietnamese culture that they are not very aware of bagels.

 

Now is the golden moment to head over to the beach – as the sun is behind the hi-rise buildings and the beach becomes ALIVE and full of lot’s of eye candy to watch:

Just like back in Jomtien - on Dongtan beach – there is the group of farangs playing volleyball

And next to the farangs playing volleyball, there is the more professional Vietnamese also playing volleyball

 I love watching them play - just as I do back in Jomtien (Dongtan).  This was something that I could not do in Cebu - as there are no open beaches like this on Mactan island - where the beaches are.

 

Of course, no good beach stay without a yummy salt coffee on the beach at Caribou - my favorite place

 

 

 

 

As it is getting dark, I head back to my room and I look in Grindr, Hornet, and Heesay (formerly BLUED) for a “massage” guy.  Two of them tickle my fancy and I choose the younger twink from Hornet, as he seems to be more into the sensual game that is very appealing to me. This is my first meetup with someone from Hornet - as Hornet is not so popular here in Da Nang.  The number one app is Heesay, followed by Grindr.

He (Thành) is only 24, works in a child care center, and has a nice pre-twunk body. His English is pretty good and we stay out on the balcony looking at Sơn Trà mountain, as he tells me about a “secret” way to get onto the back side of the mountain.  As you may remember, if you have an automatic motorbike, there is a security guard who blocks the mountain road – near the InterContinental resort, due to the steepness of the road, from venturing into the back side of the mountain.  Thành tells me to approach the mountain from the opposite direction – which I had never thought of – as I did not know there was another way.  However, after he shows how to gain access on Google Maps – I become reluctant to do something like this by myself. So, when I find the right Vietnamese guy, I will go with him via this backside of the mountain way.

 

Ok, Ok, Ok, most of you don’t care, and want me to just hurry up and get to the sex part…..I know my readers….

 

We both get naked and he starts the massage and within 10 minutes I understood that this was not going to be a massage but a FULL sex event.  How did I know it?  Well, when he laid his entire body on mine and started to kiss my neck, facial cheeks, etc. and with his subtle moans of pleasure – I understood.  Eventually, he turns me over and mounts himself on top of the area where my cock is – but just glides back and forth in a sensual slow way – monitoring my facial expressions to see if I would object.  As he is so cute and sensual, I don’t protest and he sits down on my cock and gives me a type of “anal sphincter” edging.  I was like wow – this guy is only 24 and is so talented.  By now he is riding me like a storm and his cock is rock hard and his moaning is getting pretty loud until his moment of busting his nut on my chest.  I was like wow.  Then he cleans up and then he edges me with his hands and my special edging lotion until my climax.

This is not my normal menu – but the way he did it in a slow, convincing, and sensual way – made it great and relaxed for me – as most of you know, I am not usually into  anal penetrative sex – as I am a 99% SIDE who is into edging.

 

He showers, I clean up the room, and I pay him his fee, 1,200,000 VND (around $46 USD).  Originally, he wanted to give me a discounted price of 1,000,000 VND and I told him – no, you are good and you deserve the normal price.

He leaves, and I respond to some emails from my ex-Thai boyfriend – as he really wants to come to Da Nang – and I try to convince him to focus on his new fruit salad shop business – as it has only been open for 15 days – and he should not abandon his new dream business.  My ex, not much of a romantic – truly surprises me tonight, when he sends me a photo of the dried out Valentine Day bouquet of roses – that I surprised him with on 14 Feb 2025 – where I reported about it here when I was in Cebu:

 

I am very moved by this, as this type of behavior is not in his normal character.  I have always been the foolish romantic one in our relationship, and rarely would he reciprocate. 

He wrote to me, “I kept these VD flowers here with me to remind me of why I love you every day”.

I don’t know what to say – I just keep reminding him that he is now realizing his dream with his new business and that he would never need to be a money boy again.  I try to make him understand that he cannot have both me and his new business and that he should NEVER give up his dream for anyone – including me.

I truly want him to be successful – but at the same time – that business requires him in that shop all the time, which is not conducive to the type of boyfriend partnership that I want – so I had to let him go so that he could realize his dream.  But now he wants both and I need to resist – because if I don’t resist, then it means that I have to give up my dream – which is to have a boyfriend by my side with whom I can travel with and do fun things before the potential dementia arrives.

 Incredibly, I do manage to eventually fall asleep.

 

End of day 20 in Da Nang – 13 May 2025

 

[PeterRS]

14 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

I find sunsets to be more romantic than sunrises. 

Surely that depends to a very large extent where you are? Sorry I expect this will highjack the thread a bit but it is only to illustrate a point. Hope it pisses no one off!

[floridarob]

1 hour ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

I don’t know what to say – I just keep reminding him that he is now realizing his dream with his new business and that he would never need to be a money boy again.  I try to make him understand that he cannot have both me and his new business and that he should NEVER give up his dream for anyone – including me.

Hang in there... some refer to this as hard love 🥺

[Moses]

16 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

Do you know the name of these hot springs?

Hot Springs Park - Công viên Suối khoáng nóng Núi Thần Tài Đà Nẵng 

QL14G, Hoà Phú, Hòa Vang, Đà Nẵng 550000, Vietnam

https://maps.app.goo.gl/MickEp6NwAVSLReV8

[bkkmfj2648]

1 hour ago, Moses said:

18 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

springs?

Hot Springs Park

Wow Moses thanks for sharing this place with us.  This place looks like a lot of fun.  I want to go there - probably for an overnight stay. 👍🤩

https://nuithantai.vn/

[bkkmfj2648]

9 hours ago, PeterRS said:

Surely that depends to a very large extent where you are? Sorry I expect this will highjack the thread a bit but it is only to illustrate a point.

I agree @PeterRS, I gave more emphasis to romantic sunsets, as I have rarely had a romantic sunrise - due to the effort that is required to wake up to capture the magical moment.

I share the below photo from 4 January 2024, when I hired a Muslim tour guide for 10 days to take me around Southern Thailand in the area where there is the ongoing insurgency.  He is from Yala and I was in the neighboring province / city of Songkhla.

We made part of our trip to be romantic when we stayed in the Ao Thai Resort (a lovely place run by a German and his Thai wife) to celebrate his birthday - where we shared a cozy beach bungalow together.

https://www.aothairesort.com/

On the morning of his birthday, he wanted to see the sunset - as we were on the Western side of the Gulf of Thailand and their is a great sunrise, but there isn't an interesting sunset because the sun sets over the land in that area of Thailand.

Here is a photo that he took of me trying to capture the morning sunrise at this early hour.

Sunrise in Sathing Phra District of Songkhla on 4 January 2024

As I found him in X (Twitter), he was a closeted very hot guy with a wonderful cut cock.  We had to celebrate his birthday 2 times that day - 1 time with his mother and family via a LINE phone call where we sang happy birthday WITHOUT birthday candles (as this is not allowed in their faith) and then after we terminated the LINE phone call with his family, I sang him happy birthday, but this time with 24 birthday candles that he had to blow out on his cake.

 

[vinapu]

11 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

 

I truly want him to be successful – but at the same time – that business requires him in that shop all the time,

as they say , 'in first few years you don't have a business, business has you "