Trip report April / September 2025 – Da Nang & beyond – Research if an elderly gay retiree can live comfortably in Da Nang, Vietnam

[vinapu]

15 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

Now I reflect on my Jomtien beach time versus my Da Nang beach time and I have to say that Da Nang has the better looking men – although, I would say that 99% are not available for sex.

 

all you need is just one guy so even remaining 1% should provide  that on easily 

[tm_nyc]

18 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

2 different Vietnamese guys solicit me for boom-boom

Unfortunately I have also encountered very promising looking guys hanging out in front of Da Nang massage shops but I realized that they are just touts & the services in the shop are all provided by women.  Apparently it's a pretty common scam in Da Nang for touts & motocy drivers to steer men to 'VIP Massage' shops which then rip them off in various ways (or so I've been told).

[vinapu]

3 hours ago, tm_nyc said:

  Apparently it's a pretty common scam in Da Nang for touts & motocy drivers to steer men to 'VIP Massage' shops which then rip them off in various ways (or so I've been told).

it's why bkkmfj thought another day he is pregnant

[PeterRS]

22 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

I take a quick look on the apps and I see a Vietnamese MB who has a 21cm cock – of which I downloaded and would love to post it here in this post – but perhaps it would not be in good taste??  I ask him if he makes massage and he replies no and that instead of a massage he can pound my ass with his 21cm – I decline.

You can always post the pic in the Photos forum with a link back to this thread - as long as you do not mention his name.

[Olddaddy]

7 hours ago, floridarob said:

I'm going to have to block you 😝

@Olddaddy what would you have done in this situation?

I would of bent over forwards to help him out.....and took it like a man !!

[vinapu]

52 minutes ago, Olddaddy said:

I would of bent over forwards to help him out.....and took it like a man !!

world always  can count on you Daddy !

[bkkmfj2648]

Thank you @PeterRS for your idea to link the photo of this MB's 21cm cock into my trip report thread in a safe way.

I hope that this is the correct way to do it.

 

[bkkmfj2648]

55 minutes ago, Olddaddy said:

I would of bent over forwards to help him out.....and took it like a man !!

Bravo!!!  @Olddaddy - I knew that we could count on you to do the right thing....

[bkkmfj2648]

Day 29 in Da Nang – 22 May 2025

 

Typical morning – read internet – as geopolitical events are always my favourite, as well as what is the latest trend in the finance and investment areas.  Often these latter two topics are greatly influenced by geopolitical trends --> and so it is like a never ending puzzle that needs to be assessed and understood again and again.

Post my 21 May trip report updates.

One of the annoying things (that does not occur with e-SIM) with classic telecom SIM cards, is that I believe that perhaps the telephone number (by Viettel) that was given to me is recycled.  Every day, my phone receives calls from the same entity = CSKH HOME CREDIT and I keep blocking the individual numbers – but they never give up and it seems that they have an infinite number of available numbers.

I get about 8 to 10 calls each day from this entity but I never reply or answer the call.  I wait until the call terminates and then I add it to the block list.

Does anyone know of another way to block the origination of these annoying calls?

It’s already 2pm and I get ready and head over to    hoping that I will see my favorite cute Vietnamese barista.  Unfortunately, he is not there and I am served by another guy that I am not familiar with.  I eat my usual chicken club on poppy seeded bagel with my wonderful salt coffee.

As it is too hot to go to the beach, I walk over to

https://www.facebook.com/bnbbakery2023

And I choose a delicious mango cream cake and iced Vietnamese coffee.

Today I am not in the mood for the beach so I return to my room and I look in the various apps (Heesay, Hornet, PlanetRomeo, Blowers, and Grindr) and a guy with a photo in his profile of him on a powerful motorbike up on the Hai Van Pass tickles my fancy, where I was 1 year prior.  So, I write to him on Grindr but his English is almost non-existent and so we communicate with Google Translate as our intermediary.  I discover that he is a masseur visiting Da Nang from HCMC and we move the conversation over to   where it is easier to communicate (you can invoke the AI translator) and it is easier to share location details and the local Vietnamese guys are more at ease in .

Around 6:20pm, there is a knock at my door and I think - no way that the massage guy arrived 40 minutes early.  Nope!!  Instead it was my landlady bringing me 2 coconuts.  She looks around and asks me - you are still only 1 person?  She is always perplexed as I booked the AirBnB for 2 people.  I show her my calendar and I say that my friend from Thailand is coming on the 29th of May and will stay with me for 2 weeks.  Then she seems to be happy and reminds me to please send her a copy of his passport.  I tell her not to worry.

At 7pm the masseur arrives and now face to face we both whip out our phone device translators to communicate.  I give him something to drink and he goes and takes a shower and I get naked and get onto the bed that is used for massages.  He is probably 35 years old and more stocky – more manly – than the typical twink guys you see around – so he is more my type.  His massage is truly epic and I am very happy.  When I turn over, he pours some of the massage oil on my chest area and he starts with the body-to-body type of massage – which I am not a big fan of, but I resist and try to enjoy it.  Then he is licking my nipples and balls, which I really like and eventually he goes in for the kill – by giving me a great blow job.  By now I am stroking his nice sized cock.  After quite a while, he realizes that I am not going to cum from the BJ, so I motion him to lay by my side so he can lick my nipples and I show him my preferred edging technique with my preferred edging oil.  He quickly understands and before not too long I am releasing in joy.

He goes and takes a shower and I clean up the massage room.  I prepare his fee of 1,500,000 VND (around $58 USD) and we chat a little bit and he shows me a picture of a hot guy and he asks me if I would like 4 hands massage with his friend.  Hallelujah!!  I have yet after 29 days here had a 4 hands massage.  So, I tell him yes and that we will arrange it in the next days – as he is here in Da Nang with his “friend” from HCMC for 15 days. So, this was a great “happy ending”.

After my shower, I head over to  

https://www.facebook.com/countrybbqandbeer/

as I haven’t been back in more than 1 week and I order my usual

With a nice cold Saigon beer.

I head back to my room and I chat with my BF and he is in a pretty good mood as there is more foot traffic in the food market tonight.  I ask him to identify 3 volunteers who would be willing to:

• Receive a QR code from us to order from his online store,
• Lives in the Pattaya area and will order from his online shop using one of the below 3 apps:

               o   1 who has the ShopeeFood app already installed on their phone,

               o   1 who has the GrabFood app already installed on their phone,

               o   1 who has the LineMan app already installed on their phone.

I tell him that we will perform these end-to-end tests in order to understand if it will work properly, before combining them for release into his LINE Business Account landing page.  Furthermore, to learn if the end-user (customer) experience is acceptable and also if the person in his shop is able to properly fulfill the orders when they arrive via these 3 online apps for delivery to the volunteer customers.

He understands and by now I am exhausted and I fall asleep.

 

End of day 29 in Da Nang – 22 May 2025

 

[Moses]

On 5/22/2025 at 7:37 AM, bkkmfj2648 said:

However, in Jomtien, we do have sometimes good looking athletic men like the one in this photo and sometimes they can be had for sex – as I was able to get 2 super sexy Russian footballers from Jomtien into my bed – only because I befriended 1 that was a MB on Hornet and then once I won over his trust I asked him to involve another guy from the local Russian football team for some more fun in my bed.  I just can’t see that being possible here in Da Nang

In Da Nang you should look not for footballers but for surfers. There is at least one beach club with Russian owners and many Russians are gathering there for surfing and swimming. I forgot exactly location, but it is somewhere here:

[Moses]

2 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

Does anyone know of another way to block the origination of these annoying calls?

There are apps for that. CallFilter for example. When you choose app, you should check if it has local data base of spammers.

The best strategy is to make calls from unknown numbers silent, connect a call filter and an AI secretary or answering machine. The call filter immediately drops spammers, and the remaining calls are transferred to the secretary, who asks the caller about the reasons for the call and records everything, and you then read it and, if necessary, call back ... or the caller is added to the blacklist

[floridarob]

4 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

Does anyone know of another way to block the origination of these annoying calls?

Answer them and have a dirty conversation with them...ask them if they're into edging and then go into details about what it entails 😁

[bkkmfj2648]

2 hours ago, floridarob said:

Answer them and have a dirty conversation with them...ask them if they're into edging and then go into details about what it entails 😁

Not exactly what I had in mind for my 100+ remaining days in Vietnam:

[bkkmfj2648]

4 hours ago, Moses said:

In Da Nang you should look not for footballers but for surfers

Here in Da Nang at the beach I have only seen hot surfers and sexy volleyball players.

I have not seen any footballers.  The footballers that I discovered back in Jomtien was via Hornet - as one of them needed to supplement his income.  Then after he got to know me for a while, he let me play with one of his hot married friends.  They were all part of a Russian team that used to play at the beach arena in front of the Jomtien Night Market.

It all needed to be SUPER secret and discreet - but it was fun while it lasted.....

[vinapu]

19 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

... by now I am exhausted and I fall asleep.

 

 

with all that eating I'm not surprised

[vinapu]

14 hours ago, floridarob said:

Answer them and have a dirty conversation with them...ask them if they're into edging and then go into details about what it entails 😁

or start singing Vietnamese national anthem immediately after answering

[Travelingguy]

If you have an iPhone, you can always set the phone app not to ring for unrecognized numbers.  Those will go directly to voice mail without the phone ringing.

[PeterRS]

On 5/23/2025 at 9:48 AM, PeterRS said:

You can always post the pic in the Photos forum with a link back to this thread - as long as you do not mention his name.

No! Not in this thread! It has to be placed in the Photo forum with a link underneath referring back to the discussion in the Da Nang thread. i suggest you write to the moderator to have the photo as it exists withdrawn because it is against Board rules (as I understand them). 

[bkkmfj2648]

Day 30 in Da Nang – 23 May 2025

 

Yesterday I learned a valuable lesson about geopolitics and the use of “soft power” here in Vietnam.

In summary, do not bring up any desire to drink a Chagee bubble tea or any of the Chagee products. 

Apparently, unbeknownst to me, earlier this year, there was a “soft power” incident, when Chagee rolled out their app – where the famous and controversial 9-Dash Line Policy was super imposed onto the map of the South China Sea (aka East Sea) within the Chagee app. 

Consequently, this got the Vietnamese citizenry in an uproar where they started to boycott and vote down in Google the ratings of the various Chagee franchise outlets here in Vietnam.

Supposedly there was also pushback in Malaysia.  Can any of our Malaysian forum members comment on this ?

The pushback was so severe that China approved that Chagee could modify their use of “soft power” by modifying the map in the app where they agreed to remove the controversial 9-Dash Line Policy image from the app.

 

 

 

 

So, as I love geopolitics so much – and you may remember that during my 62 day stay in Cebu there were a couple of incidents (that I reported on in that trip report thread), where the Chinese Coast Guard was harassing Philippine fisherman and the Philippine Coast Guard near several islands that China is interested in taking over off of the Philippine coast.  What astonished me the most in Cebu was when the Philippines news media was proudly reporting that the Vietnamese government was willing to assist the Philippine Coast Guard and Military with technical support to help them keep the aggressive Chinese at bay.

In all of this, Thailand has been silent about this 9-Dash Line Policy incident – but you have Vietnam and the Philippines supporting each other.  I find this disturbing – but I guess that Thailand has always been this way – which, in my opinion, is sad for ASEAN – if there will not be a collective response to China’s aggressive behavior towards the sovereignty of the Philippines and Vietnam’s territories.  

Again, I am not sure where Malaysia sits with all of this – if they are silent, willing to help their neighbors, or are even concerned with China’s 9-Dash Line Policy.

One of my favorite geopolitical YouTubers here in Vietnam, Ken Duong – he is an American Vietnamese attorney with his feet on the ground here in Vietnam and he can explain the situation better than me:

 

 

 

After posting my 23 May updates, as it is already 2pm, I head over to:

https://g.co/kgs/VpZff1f

I order the ever so fresh and delicious, fresh tuna with poached egg dish, with a salt coffee:

While I was waiting for the chef to prepare the meal, I take a look at the commotion directly outside of the restaurant and see what looks like they are filming a TV ad or part of a movie scene:

You cannot see from these photos – but they had about 15 actors walk by – and they were a very eclectic group of Asians, Africans, Europeans, and Americans.  I have no idea what it was all about but it was entertaining to watch.

As the pig that I am, I am still not satisfied, so I order another salt coffee + their amazing cinnamon toast banana ice cream dish.

Now totally satisfied, I go for a walk but after 20 minutes it is just too hot so I hire a Grab car and go over to the  to visit the large  supermarket, to stock up on things in the condo – as my BF will arrive in 6 days – and it is an excuse to get out of the heat.

Return back to my room and unpack and then take a nap – the life of a retiree.

Wake up and guess what – it is time to think about what to eat for dinner. Buffalo is the first thing that I think about, and at the recommendation of forum member, @aussie_ I head back to 

https://www.facebook.com/thenomadkitchendn/

and this time I insist on ordering the Buffalo Dinner with a cool and refreshing San Miguel beer.

This was truly enjoyable and a better choice than the leg of lamb dish that I ate here on my first visit to this great kitchen.

What is AMAZING - especially for a retiree on a fixed pension - is this wonderful Buffalo plate only cost 215,000 VND (around $8.30 USD) --> which is EXCELLENT value for money - as the SAME meal back in Denver, Colorado (the first place where I ever ate Buffalo) is around $70 USD --> which is 88% cheaper.  INCREDIBLE!!

Afterwards, the waitress convinces me, (it does not take much convincing) to order the warm brownie with vanilla ice cream – which was delightful.

Walk around for a while as there is a nice cool and refreshing breeze coming off of the sea tonight.

Head back to the room and I check in with my BF and he is happy because it is not raining and there is some foot traffic to his shop.

Cruise on the apps, but don’t see anything interesting, so I do some reading and eventually fall asleep.

 

End of day 30 in Da Nang – 23 May 2025

 

 

[Guest Raposa]

1 hour ago, PeterRS said:

No! Not in this thread! It has to be placed in the Photo forum with a link underneath referring back to the discussion in the Da Nang thread. i suggest you write to the moderator to have the photo as it exists withdrawn because it is against Board rules (as I understand them). 

Yes, have the moderators remove the link in this thread, then put a link the photos forum.

[bkkmfj2648]

5 minutes ago, Raposa said:

Yes, have the moderators remove the link in this thread, then put a link the photos forum.

Dear @PeterRS and @Raposa, I believe that the solution proposed by PeterRS is working as intended.

Non members and people not logged into our gayguides.com site won't see the XXX photo nor the link.

See below as proof (I was in logged out mode):

[PeterRS]

22 minutes ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

Dear @PeterRS and @Raposa, I believe that the solution proposed by PeterRS is working as intended.

Sorry but not according to the rules which are clearly set out. Non-members are able to view all posts - except in the Photos thread. Nude photos are not permitted in general forums. They are only permitted in the Photo forum. 

The relevant part of the Rules is -

"we are not an adult pornographic website. NO posting of nudity in any form is allowed. Any such posts will be immediately deleted."

The only exceptions, which appears to be the case with your post above, is if a moderator sees a nude post and himself then deletes it. But the moderator does not read all posts quickly and to be safe you are far better posting nude photos under the Photos forum.

[spoon]

4 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

Supposedly there was also pushback in Malaysia.  Can any of our Malaysian forum members comment on this ?

I recalled there were a pushback and short boycott but dont think it lasted long as they retracted back that photo. We have had a few clashes with china before, but nothing as serious as what vietnam had faced. The most recent one i can recall was a leaked letter from china's embassy warning malaysia to stop oil and gas exploration activity in their "claimed sea territory". And there is another incident where chinese military jets were practicing a route that passes way inside malaysian air space. 

As for the citizen, not much noises or protest can be seen.  

[vinapu]

12 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

 

 

and this time I insist on ordering the Buffalo Dinner with a cool and refreshing San Miguel beer.

 

I'm temped to admit that I have life long habit when travelling of only drinking  beer of country I'm in

[vinapu]

11 hours ago, PeterRS said:

Non-members are able to view all posts - except in the Photos thread.

Didn't bkkmfj just prove above that  it's not a case ?. Looks that software operating forum is smarter than we thought.

 

It's the same case with other two gay Thai forums which I read daily but I'm not member of- I never am able to see pics posters are inserting there