Reasons why we pay for sex

[Olddaddy]

13 hours ago, floridarob said:

I pay to get them to do what I want and not to do what I don't want.

Once I cum, I'm normally finished.....when it's a free hookup, you feel obligated to help get the other guy off and I've been on the other side of that coin with free, they finish and say they are done , leaving me hanging, karma.

I also don't like to suck dick much anymore or kiss (never did, too gay) and when a MB says suck my dick, I laugh and say 'Hey, you're the one being paid, suck mine"

SO paying, allows me to set the rules, so to speak and set the scene..... I'm always upfront with what my likes/dislikes are and what I'm expecting before closing the deal.... also making it clear that if they can't perform (stay hard) or cum, not to expect the money we've agreed on, so there's no surprises for them..... a couple took it as a challenge and really performed. One guy when going with me, said he will give me 1 hour...I said one hour? We finished in 30 minutes, so I reminded him he said one hour as he was getting dressed, his eyes widened realizing he shouldn't have said anything, that sword cuts both ways.... I had him give me a massage for the remaining 30 minutes 😉
 

He must of been 😄 thrilled 

 

[Mavica]

21 hours ago, zombie said:

"the most expensive sex is 'free sex' "

Pay me now, or pay me later.

[PeterRS]

On 4/28/2025 at 8:44 PM, floridarob said:

One guy when going with me, said he will give me 1 hour...I said one hour? We finished in 30 minutes, so I reminded him he said one hour as he was getting dressed, his eyes widened realizing he shouldn't have said anything, that sword cuts both ways.... I had him give me a massage for the remaining 30 minutes 😉

As I have got older, that's another issue that bugs me about paid sex - getting your money's worth. Yes, I know it's a transaction and there should be rules. But now I find when it comes to sex, I hate being limited by "rules of engagement" which I guess they might be termed. I no longer like it being a one-sided arrangement - although, once again, I accept that the boy gets his cash. I also like to take time both before and after. I'd hate it if I had to say to someone, "I paid for an hour and there are 30 minutes left!" Worse would be the boy saying "You've had your hour and I have another customer waiting." But these are merely my views. 

[vinapu]

14 hours ago, PeterRS said:

 I'd hate it if I had to say to someone, "I paid for an hour and there are 30 minutes left!" Worse would be the boy saying "You've had your hour and I have another customer waiting." But these are merely my views. 

unfortunately both cases happen from time to time . At least we , by paying , have some leverage on the issue.

sometimes also reverse happens  , we wish boy  goes but he is still hanging around glued to his phone, watching Tv or,  horror of horrors , occupies toilet for an hour.

[a-447]

On 4/30/2025 at 10:08 AM, PeterRS said:

As I have got older, that's another issue that bugs me about paid sex - getting your money's worth. Yes, I know it's a transaction and there should be rules. But now I find when it comes to sex, I hate being limited by "rules of engagement" which I guess they might be termed. I no longer like it being a one-sided arrangement - although, once again, I accept that the boy gets his cash. I also like to take time both before and after. I'd hate it if I had to say to someone, "I paid for an hour and there are 30 minutes left!" Worse would be the boy saying "You've had your hour and I have another customer waiting." But these are merely my views. 

All those problems disappear when you have a regular guy you 'spend time with' on your trip.

Finding that guy is the problem.

For years I had a regular in Pattaya and although I went out to the bars at night, he was the only guy I had sex with -  once in the afternoon and once at night. 

I've also got a regular in Bangkok. I have sex with him once a day, every day, and find someone else at night. He is always willing to introduce me to guys he thinks I'd like, as he knows me very well.  And he has lots of guys to choose from.

He once introduced me to a friend from Lao. He said I'd like him because he had a big cock. His friend turned up at the bar, where we sat together and I got to inspect the goods.

We went straight to the hotel! 

As I get older, I'm less interested in the chase and negotiating with new guys all the time. I make an offer and it's on a take it or leave it basis.