mauRICE Posted January 2 Posted January 2 On 1/1/2026 at 10:43 AM, BangkokDreamer said: Whats wrong with being honest with him? Nothing. It's important to clear the air and any doubts without feeling guilty as we and our feelings in the equation are just as valid and worthy of respect. The Thai guy is no babe in the woods and I wouldn't worry about him losing face as nothing the OP could say would be something the he hasn't heard already, most likely from his fellow Thais. What I do know is that a lie from the start - even a white one - isn't a good start. Look at how much the OP has toiled over the lie and it's a blessing that he found out about it at this point. What I also know is that regardless of what happens, the Thai guy will move on and be alright. vinapu, pong2, jimmie50 and 1 other 3 1 Quote
Keithambrose Posted January 2 Posted January 2 On 12/29/2025 at 12:32 AM, mauRICE said: Yup. I believe it's called throwing a sprat to catch a mackerel. A very old fishing tactic. Not so many mackerel around now, overfishing! mauRICE 1 Quote
Popular Post mima_bk Posted January 17 Author Popular Post Posted January 17 Ok, I returned from BKK today. I don't really know what to write, but to thank you all especially @Travelingguy, @jimmie50, @mauRICE and @khaolakguy for your input. I really didn't discuss the moneyboy situation because it was "I know that you know, and you know that I know" situation. But the whole ten days with him were so sweet. and y I don't really care if he is or not. he still seems to be very much into me. I think your opinions have changed my view on this. Thank you. I will be back to Bangkok soon to see him again. And I am at peace with this. Travelingguy, bkkmfj2648, floridarob and 5 others 8 Quote
floridarob Posted January 17 Posted January 17 1 hour ago, mima_bk said: I don't really know what to write Was money discussed or just taking it little by little? mima_bk 1 Quote
Olddaddy Posted January 17 Posted January 17 2 hours ago, mima_bk said: Ok, I returned from BKK today. I don't really know what to write, but to thank you all especially @Travelingguy, @jimmie50, @mauRICE and @khaolakguy for your input. I really didn't discuss the moneyboy situation because it was "I know that you know, and you know that I know" situation. But the whole ten days with him were so sweet. and y I don't really care if he is or not. he still seems to be very much into me. I think your opinions have changed my view on this. Thank you. I will be back to Bangkok soon to see him again. And I am at peace with this. Beautiful 🤍🤍 🤎❤️💜💛💚💙 mima_bk 1 Quote
khaolakguy Posted January 18 Posted January 18 That is good news Mima, I am happy to hear. mima_bk 1 Quote
mauRICE Posted January 18 Posted January 18 12 hours ago, mima_bk said: @mauRICE Thank you. I will be back to Bangkok soon to see him again. And I am at peace with this. You're welcome. Another trip soon? Would this be your third in a matter of months? I see you're slowly being reeled in. Good luck! jimmie50 and mima_bk 2 Quote
Popular Post kram987 Posted January 18 Popular Post Posted January 18 5 hours ago, mauRICE said: You're welcome. Another trip soon? Would this be your third in a matter of months? I see you're slowly being reeled in. Good luck! Easy to be reaped in by Bangkoks charms, especially when aided by good advice from here! mauRICE, Ruthrieston, pong2 and 2 others 5 Quote
mima_bk Posted February 7 Author Posted February 7 On 1/18/2026 at 11:00 AM, mauRICE said: You're welcome. Another trip soon? Would this be your third in a matter of months? I see you're slowly being reeled in. Good luck! I will be there basically the whole month of march. Most of the time will be an (illegal) workation, but I am looking forward to it. It is also a test if i could/want to live there long term. And to see how he reacts to it. One problem i have is that thai people simply can't or won't express feelings easily. They do so in actions or small gestures, but having them say something is like pulling teeth, so you avoid that. FunFifties, vinapu, Olddaddy and 1 other 3 1 Quote
mima_bk Posted 1 hour ago Author Posted 1 hour ago arrived today, so glad i booked the direct flight from western europe. FunFifties 1 Quote
mauRICE Posted 53 minutes ago Posted 53 minutes ago On 2/8/2026 at 7:16 AM, mima_bk said: One problem i have is that thai people simply can't or won't express feelings easily. They do so in actions or small gestures, but having them say something is like pulling teeth, so you avoid that. If you're still experiencing this, then it could be because you haven't reached an equivalent level of connection with the person you're trying to connect with. Put it another way, he may be nice and affectionate towards you in various ways but it could also be that he doesn't feel as deeply about you as you do about him. Commitment doesn't always come after having a good time. Alternatively he may have been dropping hints as to what he's looking for which you haven't been able to pick up. I believe this is what is called asymmetrical expectations in a relationship. In my experience, farang tend to either read too deeply into a social situation or miss the cues completely. I remember when I was younger, some older farang would misintepret or miscontrue my politeness and kindness as some kind of romantic interest which - in their mind - my Asian upbringing prevented me from expressing overtly, when in fact I was just being kind and polite. My real Thai friends and contemporaries have no problems expressing their feelings to me, including- telling me off; the ones who are my juniors socially, professionally or simply stand to benefit from me in one way or another tend to choose their words more carefully when they're around me. In any event, wish you another happy and pleasant stay in Thailand @mima_bk. Quote
