On 12/26/2025 at 4:08 AM, floridarob said:

Some money boys play the long game, I see this in Bali A LOT (used to see it in Thailand years ago). In the end they get more than if they were getting a daily fee, the feeling of  being "loved" plays with hearts and wallets... and in the end, they end up with gifts, trips, great restaurants and in the end, doing less work (sex).

Yup. I believe it's called throwing a sprat to catch a mackerel. A very old fishing tactic.

14 hours ago, jason1975 said:

I don't understand "other means".

Made an alternate profile on the app which he promptly liked. Then i asked some direct questions. 

22 hours ago, jimmie50 said:

You will recall from my October/November trip report that I met a young man via Grinder who was employed full time at one of the large Thai banks who wanted to be boyfriends, but also wanted a monthly contribution from me of $1000 USD!  It started out innocently enough without any request for money, but eventually that did come up.  I do not know if he could be called a 'money boy', but hindsight makes me think it is at least a side hustle.  

Why not? Because he allegedly has a job in a bank? The only difference is that you would have paid him by the month, not by the day. Alternatively, I'm sure he would have agreed to a weekly stipend too.

I had a guy in Bangkok last year do the same , his plan is the end result when your leaving expect to tip big .

I think I even done a post about it in October 2024

He also worked in a bank ,I'm sure he said this 😳bank or accountant something like that 

He did go to DJ station dance💃🏿🕺🏿 club with me,jazz clubbing , restaurants , wine bars , Hilton Bangkok so he was worth the gift I gave him when he came to see me off at the airport 

They usually hang around the bars in Silom on weekends 

One guy is half Thai 🇹🇭half German 🇩🇪 he is a free service until the end 

 

 

19 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

so he was worth the gift I gave him when he came to see me off at the airport 

Don't leave us in suspense..... but keep in mind, not everyone has use for gold faucets.

I will be soon back in BKK but I am at a loss how to proceed. Continue this boyfriend phantasy or mention that I know? And how to do that without hurting his feelings or him loosing face....

Or just wait if he asks for money at some point? I would not mind giving some, that is not the point.

2 hours ago, mima_bk said:

I will be soon back in BKK but I am at a loss how to proceed. Continue this boyfriend phantasy or mention that I know? And how to do that without hurting his feelings or him loosing face....

Whats wrong with being honest with him?

2 hours ago, mima_bk said:

I will be soon back in BKK but I am at a loss how to proceed. Continue this boyfriend phantasy or mention that I know? And how to do that without hurting his feelings or him loosing face....

Or maybe it’s not a fantasy.  Maybe he isn’t asking for money because he likes you.  Sometimes people surprise you.   If it were me I would talk in person when I next get to Bangkok.

26 minutes ago, kram987 said:

Or maybe it’s not a fantasy.  Maybe he isn’t asking for money because he likes you.  Sometimes people surprise you.   If it were me I would talk in person when I next get to Bangkok.

+1

I just wanted to type the same  but you beat me to it, eh , to be young again

2 minutes ago, vinapu said:

. . . to be young again

. . . and to start on that stamp collection all over again! What joy! 

6 minutes ago, PeterRS said:

. . . and to start on that stamp collection all over again! What joy! 

I'm happy continuing what I started  WHEN I was young

6 minutes ago, PeterRS said:

. . . and to start on that stamp collection all over again! What joy! 

Sorry to break it to you but the young do not collect stamps these days (there are none to be had). vinapu will have to collect something else that one can still find 

19 minutes ago, hank75 said:

Sorry to break it to you but the young do not collect stamps these days (there are none to be had). vinapu will have to collect something else that one can still find 

Funko Pop?

23 minutes ago, hank75 said:

Sorry to break it to you but the young do not collect stamps these days (there are none to be had). vinapu will have to collect something else that one can still find 

Pokeman cards?

13 minutes ago, Travelingguy said:

Pokeman cards?

Yes. Many of them are crazy over Pokemon cards.

7 hours ago, mima_bk said:

Continue this boyfriend phantasy

If you really like him, yes.

One day at a time..... don't mention you know, just keep the fantasy going, up to you as they say.

12 hours ago, kram987 said:

Or maybe it’s not a fantasy.  Maybe he isn’t asking for money because he likes you.  Sometimes people surprise you.

I agree.  It is like you were reading my mind.  If it were me, I would continue with the fantasy and see if a request for money comes up in the future.  Sooner or later, if that is his real motivation that request will come.  Believe me...I speak from experience...a very recent experience!  lol.  

I guess the real question is what do you want out of this?  I think that when you are clear about that, the rest will fall into place.  Are you actually looking for a boyfriend in Thailand with all that that entails (whether officially a money boy or not).  If you aren’t really looking for a boyfriend, just enjoy this for what it is now.  If you are looking for a real boyfriend in Thailand, that is going to be complicated whether they are a money boy or not.

5 minutes ago, Travelingguy said:

If you are looking for a real boyfriend in Thailand, that is going to be complicated whether they are a money boy or not.

Also, if you are looking for a boyfriend and you have already learned he is a money boy, are you going to be able to handle that fact in a relationship.  That could complicate things even more...your emotional well-being.  

On 12/27/2025 at 9:34 PM, mima_bk said:

I would have preferred if he had told me the first time to be honest. Because he would have been BF material.

 

Aahh...so what if he is genuinely into you as others have suggested? Where do you see this "situation" going? Can you accept a "BF" (your terminology) who's a hooker? There are plenty of Thai hooker couples (gay and straight) and believe it or not they love each other. There are also many farang who met their partners through commercial hook ups. What if he says he wants to stop working and hints non-sex work doesn't pay enough or is too hard to find? But I agree, best to speak to him about it. 

We all have to make a living. Don't blame him for how he does that. If you are going to talk to him about it make it a gentle conversation and without him losing face. 

If you have fun together, whatever the situation, keep doing it. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face, no harm in having a good fuck buddy. It is not a pass "Go" and proceed straight to the altar situation.

Thank you all so much. Maybe I am just overthinking. As @floridarob suggested I will take it one day at a time. And see how it goes.

7 hours ago, mauRICE said:

Aahh...so what if he is genuinely into you as others have suggested? Where do you see this "situation" going? Can you accept a "BF" (your terminology) who's a hooker? There are plenty of Thai hooker couples (gay and straight) and believe it or not they love each other. There are also many farang who met their partners through commercial hook ups. What if he says he wants to stop working and hints non-sex work doesn't pay enough or is too hard to find? But I agree, best to speak to him about it. 

I am contemplating exactly these questions for three weeks now. What I know is that I don't want to let go (yet).

3 hours ago, mima_bk said:

I am contemplating exactly these questions for three weeks now. What I know is that I don't want to let go (yet).

Three weeks? That's a lot of time, emotion and thought expended on what is essentially a holiday fling. Do you realise how many clients and likeable Johns he would have had in three weeks? It's a lifetime for these guys.