forrestreid Posted yesterday at 06:20 PM Posted yesterday at 06:20 PM Regarding the comment of @mauRICE on the reference to a customer of the bar as “Oriental”, I will submit to his wisdom that is now regarded as rather “not cool” to use it. Personally I would have said that, although rather old-fashioned these days, it wasn’t necessarily an offensive term. However, given your location in Kuala Lumpur, I presume you have your finger on the pulse amongst the people about whom the term is used. However, I think you’re wrong to suggest it is purely an equivalent of "Asian". I think the term "Oriental" when describing a person is more understood to mean an East Asian person, as opposed to an Arab or Indian. So by saying Oriental rather than Asian, Vinapu was giving somewhat richer contextual information. Usage on this is depends on where you are from - in the UK Asian tends to mean somebody from the south Asian subcontinent whereas in America an Asian almost exclusively means East Asian. In England you might hear somebody saying “there used to be a Chinese restaurant there, but it closed and they opened an Asian restaurant in its place” which would sound weird to a North American, but would be understood in England to mean an Indian restaurant replaced a Chinese. Ian here, floridarob and vinapu 3 Quote
Keithambrose Posted yesterday at 06:30 PM Posted yesterday at 06:30 PM 7 minutes ago, forrestreid said: Regarding the comment of @mauRICE on the reference to a customer of the bar as “Oriental”, I will submit to his wisdom that is now regarded as rather “not cool” to use it. Personally I would have said that, although rather old-fashioned these days, it wasn’t necessarily an offensive term. However, given your location in Kuala Lumpur, I presume you have your finger on the pulse amongst the people about whom the term is used. However, I think you’re wrong to suggest it is purely an equivalent of "Asian". I think the term "Oriental" when describing a person is more understood to mean an East Asian person, as opposed to an Arab or Indian. So by saying Oriental rather than Asian, Vinapu was giving somewhat richer contextual information. Usage on this is depends on where you are from - in the UK Asian tends to mean somebody from the south Asian subcontinent whereas in America an Asian almost exclusively means East Asian. In England you might hear somebody saying “there used to be a Chinese restaurant there, but it closed and they opened an Asian restaurant in its place” which would sound weird to a North American, but would be understood in England to mean an Indian restaurant replaced a Chinese. In UK, in my experience, on the escort sites, etc, 'South Asian' is used to denote someone from India. Asian can cover South East Asia, and China. Japan is usually separate Quote
floridarob Posted yesterday at 07:17 PM Posted yesterday at 07:17 PM Words shift depending on country, culture, and language. In Mexico you’ll hear “chino,” “hindú,” and “gringo” used pretty casually. You’ll even see places called “Oriental City.” Aren't languages fun 🙂 Quote
mauRICE Posted 20 hours ago Author Posted 20 hours ago 6 hours ago, forrestreid said: Regarding the comment of @mauRICE on the reference to a customer of the bar as “Oriental”, I will submit to his wisdom that is now regarded as rather “not cool” to use it. Personally I would have said that, although rather old-fashioned these days, it wasn’t necessarily an offensive term... However, I think you’re wrong to suggest it is purely an equivalent of "Asian". Where did I say or suggest it to be "purely an equivalent of Asian"? The term has been used on me and I found it very offensive. Quote
mauRICE Posted 19 hours ago Author Posted 19 hours ago Instead of rambling on where or how the term "Oriental" may be used denotatively, try looking up its connotative meanings which are generally considered offensive, dated and derogatory when applied to people. It carries strong colonial undertones, reducing diverse cultures to a stereotyped, exotic or othered image. The term is linked to historical discrimination, "yellow peril" stereotypes and Western colonial attitudes that viewed Asia as other or inferior and reduces diverse populations to a monolithic, exoticised or foreign image, often disregarding individual identities. Not surprisingly, I've often seen this blinkered lens applied to the diverse Thai peoples in this and other fora. I suggest anyone who's interested in this topic read Edward Said's seminal tome, Orientalism. Quote
Ian here Posted 19 hours ago Posted 19 hours ago I was born in England. Asian there generaly refers to people from Pakistan and Countries around that area. If someone was to say or refer to an Oriental gentleman they would be talking about China or around that area. Australia, Asians are Chinese or people around that area. The evening meal in England was called Tea and the meal during the day was called dinner. Australia, midday is lunch and evening meal is dinner. Can you imagine trying to learn English as your 2nd language?🫣😁 vinapu 1 Quote
mauRICE Posted 19 hours ago Author Posted 19 hours ago 52 minutes ago, Ian here said: Can you imagine trying to learn English as your 2nd language?🫣😁 Oh I dunno...Olddaddy seems to have had a fair go at it, as the Aussies would say. 🤣😂 jamiebee and floridarob 2 Quote
vinapu Posted 17 hours ago Posted 17 hours ago 19 hours ago, mauRICE said: Hi @vinapu and @Kiwi306, thanks for the brief reports of your visits. By twinks do you mean skinny, floppy-haired Jomtien Complex-type beings of indeterminate sex yes Quote
vinapu Posted 17 hours ago Posted 17 hours ago 19 hours ago, mauRICE said: vin, it's not cool to describe Asians (which I presume is what you meant) as Orientals. While I understand that some of you are desperate to hold on to the belief that Queen V still sits on the throne of Empire, and a few of you might have even been born during her reign, those days are long gone. thank for that warning but without a bit of sarcasm I honestly have no idea what you are talking about. I'm not privy to British colonial and imperial traditions and see no wrong in calling somebody from Orient indeed Oriental. If that's offensive it's news for me but I'm not surprised since those days everything seems to be offensive, when we talk and when we stay silent Quote
jason1975 Posted 17 hours ago Posted 17 hours ago 5 minutes ago, vinapu said: yes There really are twinks in new bar? 😜 Quote
vinapu Posted 17 hours ago Posted 17 hours ago 9 hours ago, forrestreid said: So by saying Oriental rather than Asian, Vinapu was giving somewhat richer contextual information. you are my best friend and long-lost twin brother Quote
vinapu Posted 17 hours ago Posted 17 hours ago 8 hours ago, floridarob said: Words shift depending on country, culture, and language. In Mexico you’ll hear “chino,” “hindú,” and “gringo” used pretty casually. You’ll even see places called “Oriental City.” Aren't languages fun 🙂 yes , they are floridarob 1 Quote
vinapu Posted 17 hours ago Posted 17 hours ago 4 minutes ago, jason1975 said: There really are twinks in new bar? 😜 yes, I found one quite attractive even if I'm not into twinks and another one less so but obviously ASIAN customer there had reverse opinion jamiebee, emiel1981 and floridarob 3 Quote
jason1975 Posted 13 hours ago Posted 13 hours ago 3 hours ago, vinapu said: yes, I found one quite attractive even if I'm not into twinks and another one less so but obviously ASIAN customer there had reverse opinion This particular Asian customer will be happy to visit next month! Quote
emiel1981 Posted 10 hours ago Posted 10 hours ago 3 hours ago, jason1975 said: This particular Asian customer will be happy to visit next month! Let's go together! Quote
jason1975 Posted 8 hours ago Posted 8 hours ago 1 hour ago, emiel1981 said: Let's go together! Yes. You can have the muscle guys. Leave the twinks to me! Enchanted_Elixir 1 Quote
mauRICE Posted 8 hours ago Author Posted 8 hours ago 1 hour ago, emiel1981 said: Let's go together! Sounds like a school excursion. Who's the teacher-in-charge? Ohh don't tell me, don't tell me...is it Mrs V? Quote
floridarob Posted 2 hours ago Posted 2 hours ago 6 hours ago, mauRICE said: Sounds like a school excursion. Who's the teacher-in-charge? Ohh don't tell me, don't tell me...is it Mrs V? The gym teacher.... @Olddaddy Quote
Travelingguy Posted 2 hours ago Posted 2 hours ago In the US, Oriental is archaic. It is not as offensive as many other terms, but it isn’t a term anyone would like to have used in reference to themselves. I am aware that @vinapu is not a native English speaker. With that in mind and given his history of posts that don’t give me the impression of anti-Asian bias, I skipped right over that, “giving him grace” as folks in parts of the US are fond of saying. I would recommend not using the term because I like vinapu and am pretty sure that he wouldn’t want to offend anyone. Quote
forrestreid Posted 1 hour ago Posted 1 hour ago 19 hours ago, mauRICE said: Where did I say or suggest it to be "purely an equivalent of Asian"? The term has been used on me and I found it very offensive. Yes, you are correct. You didnt say that, that was my impression on it after a quick reading of your post. Apologies. However, your point did bring up the question of what would be a good replacement for the term, which is why I wrote started my "rambling" post. The fact that it produced a bit of a discussion about the use of Asian as a term amongst readers suggests that there was some merit in bringing what a more precise replacement of Oriental might be. You personally find it very offensive - that is respectfully noted. You might note that my commentary was prompted at least in part by seeking a replacement for the term, presuming that it was deemed unacceptable in say, Kuala Lumpur (in an acknowledgment of your presumed perspective). You suggest reading Edward Said to understand why the term is offensive. I have not read him but I was aware that the term has been politically incorrect in academia since that book was published in 1978. But I had presumed that was mainly an issue in academic circles. I did not presume that this had necessarily spread to the general public. Interesting that you chose to use him as a justification for the incorrectness of the term. I have to say that I would have been more impressed if you had said that the term would be seen as offensive amongst all your Malaysian Chinese contemporaries in present day Kuala Lumpur rather that it had been demonstrated as such in a dusty academic book in 1978 (not meaning that necessarily as a criticism of the Said thesis). Sorry if that seems snarky, but while I am all for equality and using non-offensive language (it would be a rather non-aware gay man who would say different) I prefer to think of it in terms of what the average well-intentioned man or woman in the street thinks rather than what is the current viewpoint in an academic seminar. Quote