TotallyOz Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Maybe I am getting old. Maybe I am just getting boring but the gay bars and gay clubs do nothing for me anymore. I use to love going to the bars and clubs that were gay but it seems to be one of the things I dread these days. If there is a big gogo night, well that is a different story as for some perverted reason, I love just sitting and watching. I have never been a drinker. So, that doesn't do anything for me either. I use to love going to Montreal but that was when Taboo was really Taboo. I still love going to Thailand as they have something for me to watch and oogle and the boys there (even if not working) fancy getting watched by an older guy. I still love going to Brazil but only for the saunas and the people. The bars there do nothing for me either. I was curious if others felt this as well or I am the only one tired of the scene? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MsGuy Posted March 28, 2012 Members Share Posted March 28, 2012 Hmmmm... Cute young twinks still give you a boner... But crowds, boozed up idiots, smoke choked air and incredibly loud noise no longer do much for you. Sounds like you're settling quite nicely into a mellower phase of your life, Oz. I wouldn't worry too much over it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MsGuy Posted March 28, 2012 Members Share Posted March 28, 2012 PS What happened to Dorothy? Is this part of your change of life? You probably switched avatars weeks ago and I'm just now noticing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest EXPAT Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 For me the problem is that most of the bars and clubs no longer give you an atmosphere to relax and sit and enjoy. Most bars at least in LA remove the bar stools around 9PM so that they can have maximum amount of people in the bar or club at once. So they don't want you sitting around talking and having a nice evening. They want you at the bar and away as soon as possible so they can serve the next person. That is not a fun atmosphere. That's why I have lost interest and frankly the management doesn't care. They want the 20 somethings in the largest numbers possible to sell the most drinks and that's about it. So going to these places have become less desirable now as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Suckrates Posted March 28, 2012 Members Share Posted March 28, 2012 iI am 60 now. I never was a Bar person, but went cause that was the place to pick up boys. Now, not so much as noone leaves their home opting for cruising on the internet. I guess internet rejection isnt as HARD ??? Younger gays are NOT kind to older Gays. In fact, they treat us like lepers. I guess THEY dont realize they may someday be OLD too ? I dont drink, so why go to a bar ? As you age, your priorities change, and while I still am attracted to HOT guys and love sex. I dont find myself as compelled to be out there searching. At 60, a nice quiet nite at home is all i need. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hitoallusa Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 I'm not into bar scene either. I think it's one of many gay scene that gets emphasized in the media. The gay community needs some sound activities where people can be themselves without drugs and sex. Balance in life is important. I have seen a lot of young gay guys driven into the business due to drugs or they are HIV+. Their pimps are mean and uncaring and will do anything to make younger guys follow their destructive course. It's unfortunate and sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gcursor Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 I've always avoided the gay scene. Some years back, I was going a lot to the strip club and the bath house almost every night but that was because I had trouble staying at my apartment (because the neighbors were noisy) and so I would hang out at the bar and bath house until around 2:30am then drive home to get some sleep for the next day. Most of the time when I went to these places, I would usually bring something to read or maybe a hand-held game to play. I remember walking into the bath house on more than one occasion with a few folders and a book or two of work to do while I was there. People never really noticed it much though because I would keep my door shut the whole time I was there. Although people now and then questioned my "reasons" that I acted so differently, I never really talked much about my situation. It was my situation and I was handling it the best way I could. I still remember in that male strip club sitting there playing a game on my iPod and the stripper comes over and says, "Hey..I'm dancing up here!" and I looked up and said, "Yes I know" then turned my attention back to my game. I've always been on the fringes of gay society and I believe that's how it will always be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest FourAces Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 Many replies are focusing on bars but you asked about the Gay Scene .. btw love the new avatar I have only been to a gay bar once in my life. I don't drink and if you're old enough to do so I probably have little interest in you ... i'm joking take a breath. But not being a drinker or smoker or enjoying packed sweaty places is not for me. I used to pick up all my treats via the art of cruising. I loved the hunt and miss it quite a bit. As for other Gay Scene activities I do not avoid them I just havelittle interest in them. If they fit into my lifestyle great but I am not going out of my way to bake inthe Dallas heat to watch Gay Pride, as an example, or hang out at any club that is playing the music EXPAT posts here, hey I love EXPAT I'm sure he cant help it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest EXPAT Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 I admit it I've always been a disco queen. I love anything with at least 128 BPM or more. When I lived in NYC I was at Splash on Fridays and The Roxy every Saturday at 11:30PM. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TotallyOz Posted March 28, 2012 Author Share Posted March 28, 2012 I love anything with at least 128 BPM or more. Is BPM, Boys Per Minute? I can get off in about 45 seconds with one guy but 128 seems a little hard to me. Just me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TotallyOz Posted March 28, 2012 Author Share Posted March 28, 2012 PS What happened to Dorothy? Is this part of your change of life? You probably switched avatars weeks ago and I'm just now noticing. Just did it last night. Glad someone noticed. I have had the same one for years and will try a few things. This one I don't really like and will change soon. But, wanted to test the waters. I like color for sure! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caeron Posted March 28, 2012 Share Posted March 28, 2012 The bar scene is for the young and the beautiful. I'm neither. I don't mind having a drink with friends, or maybe going to a go-go bar once in a while, but otherwise, what's the point for someone like me? I had enough trouble picking guys up when I was young and cute, it surely hasn't gotten any better! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Allessio77 Posted March 29, 2012 Share Posted March 29, 2012 There is no gay scene where I live now!.....when I did live in a city I was politically and culturelly active, but not socially active. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members OneFinger Posted March 29, 2012 Members Share Posted March 29, 2012 I lived for years in Utah where there were a lot of gay bars but absolutely no strip bars. Got a second home in Portland 6 months ago. There is a great strip bar here but have only been there once. There's also a wonderful gay church here but haven't bothered going to that either. I'm one of those older guys that's very comfortable avoiding the gay scene. I have close friends that I do things with. Have a couple of gay co-workers that I interact with. But, I'm definately not a "mover and shaker" in the gay community. They seem to be doing very well without me. And, that's just fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest CharliePS Posted March 29, 2012 Share Posted March 29, 2012 I came out when men who were already in the gay scene were the only people who knew what the word "gay" meant. Socializing took place only in private homes, bathhouses or bars, so I frequented both of the latter, because they were the best places to pick up new sex partners, not only where I lived but when I travelled to other cities. Thus, I came to associate sexual excitement with bars and baths. The baths pretty much disappeared with the advent of AIDS 30 years ago, and that left the bars, which were loud, usually smokey, and most interesting quite late at night. I stopped smoking forty years ago, I don't drink much, loud noise gives me a headache, I like to go to bed early and get up early in the morning, and the attractive young men in bars aren't cruising me anymore. If I am going to have to pay for sex anyway, why not do it efficiently thought the Internet? So if "the gay scene" means basically bars, I now avoid it, except for an occasional visit for nostalgia's sake. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members JKane Posted March 30, 2012 Members Share Posted March 30, 2012 I really miss the old Hooboy dinners, but haven't found anything I particularly enjoy doing in WeHo since they stopped. I kind of like the atmosphere at MJ's in Silverlake, but I also miss Spotlight a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members seattlebottom Posted April 1, 2012 Members Share Posted April 1, 2012 I've always avoided ALL scenes frankly cuz I hate being around too many people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
