Trip report April / September 2025 – Da Nang & beyond – Research if an elderly gay retiree can live comfortably in Da Nang, Vietnam

[bkkmfj2648]

1 hour ago, floridarob said:

was done so the "gossip" makes it way back to them.....lol

Bravo = exactly

 

And when I will visit them with my BF it will become very obvious to them 👍🤩

[vinapu]

7 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

 

Anyway, she offers me today a non-alcoholic beverage made from bread – it was good. 

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My BF alerted me earlier that by 11:10am he was already in a Grab car for Suvarnabhumi airport

 

it's called 'kvas" and for me ( Moses will be happy ) it's much better than coca-cola. 

Hotter weather , more you will like it.

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couldn't you direct him  to use Jomtien airport bus to save money  and increase his sophistry even more ? 

[bkkmfj2648]

15 hours ago, vinapu said:

couldn't you direct him  to use Jomtien airport bus to save money  and increase his sophistry even more ?

yes - that is the longer term plan.

As this was his first ever international trip - there was already enough angst to push this additional idea.  And, it is super convenient for him, as he lives in the VT complex that is directly behind the Roong Reuang bus station in Jomtien:

 

Look how much time it took me to finally take the Jomtien to Suvarnabhumi airport bus to Bangkok? 

Thanks to a certain "kind" drill sergeant from this forum - he got me to finally venture on-board  :>))

 

[jason1975]

No update from OP past 3 days - maybe because 🥰🥰🥰 with boyfriend? 🤣🤣🤣

[khaolakguy]

Hoping for the best......waiting for the white smoke!

[Keithambrose]

2 hours ago, khaolakguy said:

Hoping for the best......waiting for the white smoke!

+1

[vinapu]

18 hours ago, jason1975 said:

No update from OP past 3 days - maybe because 🥰🥰🥰 with boyfriend? 🤣🤣🤣

I wouldn't be surprised if you are right

[emiel1981]

I hope @bkkmfj2648 wil return to this forum and will pick it up from where this thread ended... We all wanna hear about his adventures, findings and off course how everything is going with the Thai boyfriend that came over to Vietnam! 

[Olddaddy]

Yes please !! 🙏 

[bkkmfj2648]

2 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

Yes please !! 🙏 

Here in Da Nang - the beach is divided into many zones, where us swimmers are allowed to swim - where the area is indicated with;

• Yellow Flag - moderate surf and/or currents,
• Red Flag - stronger currents and waves are present,
• Double Red Flags - water is closed to the public.

 

Our gayguides beach, in my opinion, is currently unsafe to swim in, and in my opinion is in a state of Red Flag.  Consequently, I will not enter these dangerous waters until the gayguides lifeguards (i.e., the gayguide membership) do the necessary to make it safe again to swim in our gayguides beach.

 

Case in point:

 

[Keithambrose]

9 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said:

Here in Da Nang - the beach is divided into many zones, where us swimmers are allowed to swim - where the area is indicated with;

• Yellow Flag - moderate surf and/or currents,
• Red Flag - stronger currents and waves are present,
• Double Red Flags - water is closed to the public.

 

Our gayguides beach, in my opinion, is currently unsafe to swim in, and in my opinion is in a state of Red Flag.  Consequently, I will not enter these dangerous waters until the gayguides lifeguards (i.e., the gayguide membership) do the necessary to make it safe again to swim in our gayguides beach.

 

Case in point:

 

Nice analogy, I understand.  Its a real shame that you have been driven to this. 

[khaolakguy]

7 hours ago, Keithambrose said:

Nice analogy, I understand.  Its a real shame that you have been driven to this. 

+1

But good to expose the hypocrites. 

[12is12]

With ur permission, a question to the last two responders. The question is one of principle; I have no idea about the issue btw those two and bkk, or about the characters of all three.

Assuming the two ARE "hypocrites", why is it a good idea to stop posting just bcs someone u hold in low regard comments negatively on u ?

I wrote this is a principled question, bcs it's not the 1st time someone decides to disengage from the board due to quarrelsome posts.

Why give in to bullies? Isnt it much better simply to ignore them?

[khaolakguy]

12is12,

 I don’t think anyone is saying it is a good idea to stop, I think it is sad if anyone reaches that point but understandable.

 A forum is supposed to be a place of fun, with an exchange of views and information. The most enjoyable posts are those where people expose a part of themselves honestly, their character/ their journey, while informing and entertaining in their individual style. It’s just life and we the readers engage with them.

 But through their honesty they are also exposed. If posting becomes no longer fun through repeated personal attacks and critiques of their writing style and accusations of rule breaking it’s not surprising if they just decide to stop. Why take the trouble to post if you just keep exposing yourself to attack.

 

Another and very different example of it here.

https://www.gayguides.com/topic/76370-tunisian-military-has-a-lot-to-offer/

 

[12is12]

That's exactly my point: why let negative posts effect ur fun?

U can just ignore them, even technically - by blocking viewing of their posts....

EVERYONE posting here, especially prolific guys like bkk, do so bcs they draw satisfaction and/or from it. Why let others ruin it?

[khaolakguy]

As the above example demonstrates, where the negative comments are quoted and repeated in another's posts, you can't block it out, even if you were inclined to. 

I think your comments(why let others ruin it?) are best directed to others. If you feel you are making a positive contribution to a forum that you enjoy, but others shit on your contributions, why bother? It takes effort to make these kind of personal informative posts, you know what the ironing is suddenly looking more attractive!!

I've answered your query, if you don't get it you don't get it. 

I miss the contributions of those who didn't feel able to continue contributing in these circumstances. Who wants to leave bullies and abuse unanswered?

[12is12]

I do

Not only in forums; also in real life.

They dont deserve being answered, and I dont want to waste time on them or let them disturb my good mood.   (-: 

[Keithambrose]

On 6/30/2025 at 9:49 AM, 12is12 said:

I do

Not only in forums; also in real life.

They dont deserve being answered, and I dont want to waste time on them or let them disturb my good mood.   (-: 

You should see the hysterical messages I get by PM from PeterRS! I now ignore them, as suggested.  

[Olddaddy]

On 6/29/2025 at 7:45 PM, khaolakguy said:

 

12is12,

 I don’t think anyone is saying it is a good idea to stop, I think it is sad if anyone reaches that point but understandable.

 A forum is supposed to be a place of fun, with an exchange of views and information. The most enjoyable posts are those where people expose a part of themselves honestly, their character/ their journey, while informing and entertaining in their individual style. It’s just life and we the readers engage with them.

 But through their honesty they are also exposed. If posting becomes no longer fun through repeated personal attacks and critiques of their writing style and accusations of rule breaking it’s not surprising if they just decide to stop. Why take the trouble to post if you just keep exposing yourself to attack.

 

Another and very different example of it here.

https://www.gayguides.com/topic/76370-tunisian-military-has-a-lot-to-offer/

 

Your a hypocrite,you really are