mauRICE Posted 16 hours ago Posted 16 hours ago 2 hours ago, jimmie50 said: As a follow-up to my most recent update, Bee shared when asking for support that he also works part time after bank hours at two different massage shops...one in Sathorn and the other Surawong. I believe they were owned by the same person and they just send him to the shop where he is needed the most. No judgement about that...realize he is doing what he needs to do in order to support himself and his parents. Just filled with mixed emotions. Out of curiosity, what bank does he work at? Did he show you his bank ID? How do you know he's supporting his parents? Because he told you? How do you even know he has parents? What massage shop does he work at? Have you been there? How did he manage his rent before you arrived? How is he going to manage his rent next month? And the month after that? Did you even know his full name and where he lived before you sent him the money? Consider the 10,000 baht you gave him as tip for the few days he was with you and move on. He has. Enjoy Chiang Mai. I hear it's been raining every day for the past few days. vinapu and jamiebee 2 Quote
Keithambrose Posted 12 hours ago Posted 12 hours ago 4 hours ago, mauRICE said: Out of curiosity, what bank does he work at? Did he show you his bank ID? How do you know he's supporting his parents? Because he told you? How do you even know he has parents? What massage shop does he work at? Have you been there? How did he manage his rent before you arrived? How is he going to manage his rent next month? And the month after that? Did you even know his full name and where he lived before you sent him the money? Consider the 10,000 baht you gave him as tip for the few days he was with you and move on. He has. Enjoy Chiang Mai. I hear it's been raining every day for the past few days. What a helpful post! jamiebee and Enchanted_Elixir 2 Quote
emiel1981 Posted 5 hours ago Posted 5 hours ago 14 hours ago, jimmie50 said: I know, I know…everyone else probably saw this coming. First of all, thank you for your honest post and sharing your story. It's always interesting and nice to hear the follow-up to a story, even though it's obviously not as rosy as we all hoped for you. But as you yourself said: if we were realistic, we would all have assumed that sooner or later the request for financial support would come... And I can completely understand that because that request for help initially seemed to materialize, you might have had some hope that things would be different with him than in most cases... It's good that you realize you shouldn't keep transferring money. Because then you'll likely continue to receive a never-ending stream of requests for money. Keep your wits about you and don't let your emotions get the better of you and tempt you to make another payment. 15 hours ago, jimmie50 said: Meeting Woody this morning from Siam Roads, so hopefully he will be able to brighten my spirits a bit Woody is a really nice guy, so I'm sure you'll enjoy the rest of your journey. I look forward to your future updates. iendo 1 Quote
zoomomancs Posted 3 hours ago Posted 3 hours ago 1 hour ago, emiel1981 said: First of all, thank you for your honest post and sharing your story. It's always interesting and nice to hear the follow-up to a story, even though it's obviously not as rosy as we all hoped for you. But as you yourself said: if we were realistic, we would all have assumed that sooner or later the request for financial support would come... And I can completely understand that because that request for help initially seemed to materialize, you might have had some hope that things would be different with him than in most cases... It's good that you realize you shouldn't keep transferring money. Because then you'll likely continue to receive a never-ending stream of requests for money. Keep your wits about you and don't let your emotions get the better of you and tempt you to make another payment. Woody is a really nice guy, so I'm sure you'll enjoy the rest of your journey. I look forward to your future updates. I think 75% of the men I've been with in the last 15 years have messaged afterwards to ask for money. In my early years I did send money but nowadays I tell them 'I don't send money and I don't lend money'. When I'm there, and in a better position to assess their story, I can be persuaded to give them 2000bt if times are hard. Quote
jason1975 Posted 2 hours ago Posted 2 hours ago I know of a bar guy who has been given 50k a month from a rich sponsor for past few months. Quote
iendo Posted 2 hours ago Posted 2 hours ago 3 hours ago, emiel1981 said: First of all, thank you for your honest post and sharing your story. It's always interesting and nice to hear the follow-up to a story, even though it's obviously not as rosy as we all hoped for you. But as you yourself said: if we were realistic, we would all have assumed that sooner or later the request for financial support would come... And I can completely understand that because that request for help initially seemed to materialize, you might have had some hope that things would be different with him than in most cases... It's good that you realize you shouldn't keep transferring money. Because then you'll likely continue to receive a never-ending stream of requests for money. Keep your wits about you and don't let your emotions get the better of you and tempt you to make another payment. Good and constructive post. If someone is being open in telling his story, he can probably do without "I told you so" and ridicule. I think that many of us learned the hard way, even after being warned. It's like a ride off passage...or a coming of age if you will. Mine was relatively cheap. I gave the boy 10k baht so he could go home after our visit together to Bangkok. After I gave him the money he went straight on a bus back to Pattaya. I guess that was his new home Live and learn for us all. Quote
