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Back from Songkran and, honestly, still slightly dazed. If you’ve done Bangkok before, you think you know what’s coming. You don’t. This year felt… bigger. Denser. As if the city inhaled and then forgot to exhale. Silom, in particular, tipped over into something close to myth. One day had to be shut down entirely because the crowds simply became unmanageable. Not “busy”, not “packed”, properly overrun. Water, bodies, music, whistles, foam, heat. It stopped being a street and became a current you were carried along in. And the boys. OMG. Silom was thick with gleaming circuit party types, bronzed, oiled, and very aware of it. The sort of crowd that makes you stand up a little straighter, or at least consider doing a push-up later. Everywhere you looked: mesh tops, tiny shorts, water guns held like accessories rather than weapons. It felt curated, but not artificial. More like everyone had quietly agreed to bring their best game. Queues into the mainstays were, predictably, biblical. DJ Station and GOD had lines snaking well into the street, damp, impatient, but oddly cheerful. No one really minded. That’s part of the ritual. You queue, you flirt, you get splashed by strangers, you make temporary alliances. By the time you get inside, you already feel like you’ve been out all night. What’s changed, and what surprised me, is how much the scene has expanded. There are new venues now, not covered by the trip reports on this forum. Here are a few: Cake (bear bar) CAKE is one of those places you don’t quite notice at first… and then suddenly realise you’ve spent half the night there. Positioned as a bear bar, it fills a gap Silom didn’t quite have before. Not in the old-school, slightly tired sense, but in a way that feels deliberately warmer, more social, and a bit less performative than the usual circuit-heavy scene outside. Inside, the set-up is fairly straightforward. Compact, a bit dark, music at a level where you can still talk without shouting. The lighting is forgiving in the best possible way. It invites you in rather than putting you on display. You order a drink, you linger, you end up talking to someone. The crowd is exactly what you’d hope for: Bears, cubs, and plenty of admirers A fair number of 30s and 40s guys who look like they’ve outgrown the need to impress. Some younger visitors drifting in, curious, often staying longer than they planned. A sprinkling of circuit boys who, after a few nights of posing, seem quietly relieved to relax a bit. There’s a noticeable shift in tone compared to the rest of Silom. Less peacocking. More eye contact. People actually introduce themselves. Conversations last longer than one drink. It feels… human. During Songkran, CAKE leaned into its identity rather than competing with the madness outside. The pool party on the 13th of April was, by all accounts, exactly what you’d imagine and then a bit better. Not polished, not overly curated. Just a proper gathering. Think bodies of all shapes in the water, laughter cutting through the music, beers in hand, someone dancing a bit too enthusiastically, someone else cheering them on. Less about spectacle, more about participation. You could feel the contrast with the main Silom strip. Outside: hyper-toned, high-gloss, slightly intimidating. Inside CAKE: softer edges, easier smiles, a bit of mischief, a bit of flirtation that doesn’t take itself too seriously. It’s also one of the few places where you see generations mixing without tension. A guy in his early 30s chatting comfortably with someone in his late 40s. No hierarchy. No obvious social sorting. Just people… being there. Boy Camp This one deserves a proper mention because it signals where Silom is heading, not where it’s been. Boy Camp sits right in the middle of the action on Soi 2, but it doesn’t feel like a legacy venue. It feels new. Slightly more curated. Slightly more aware of itself. And very much built for the current generation of Asian gay nightlife. Physically, it’s a multi-level party bar with a compact but high-energy layout. Think three floors stacked vertically, each getting progressively more intense as you go up. Downstairs is more social, transitional space. Middle level starts to pulse. Upstairs is where it tips into full party mode. Music leans heavily into K-pop, Asian pop, and circuit-adjacent beats, which gives it a distinct flavour compared to the more Western-heavy playlists at DJ Station. The crowd reflects that shift. You get a lot of: Younger Asian guys, particularly Thai, Korean, Taiwanese Well-groomed, fashion-aware, slightly softer aesthetic than the classic circuit muscle crowd Groups of friends rather than lone cruisers A noticeable social-media polish… but still playful, not overly cold There’s a kind of “idol energy” to the place. Not intimidating, but very visually tuned. People here know how they look under lighting. What’s interesting is that Boy Camp isn’t primarily about cruising or even heavy drinking. It’s about energy, movement, and group dynamics. People dance in clusters. They flirt in waves rather than one-on-one. There’s a sense of collective rhythm rather than individual hunting. Compared to older Silom venues: Less chaotic than GOD Less chaotic but more curated than DJ Station Less transactional than the go-go style places historically tied to the Patpong area During Songkran, it becomes something else entirely. The street spills into the venue and the venue spills back into the street. You get soaked boys coming in, drying off, then going straight back out again. Water guns abandoned at the entrance. Shirts half-buttoned or gone entirely. The lighting hits wet skin in a way that feels almost staged. And because the crowd skews slightly younger and more Asian, the aesthetic shifts from “circuit brute” to something more sleek, agile, almost choreographed. Less about size, more about lines. Less about dominance, more about presence. If DJ Station is the institution and GOD is the pressure cooker, then Boy Camp is the new language Silom is learning. And judging by the queues forming outside it this Songkran, it’s a language people are very keen to speak. By the end of it, Silom felt less like a party and more like an event that briefly took over the city, something between a festival and a fever dream. Would I do it again? Absolutely.

My experience, as a holiday visitor for the last twenty years, is that yes they can be faithful; the older they are, the more likely that they can be, but let me immediately qualify that, by asking 'who are we expecting him to be faithful to?' Most young Thai boys shag like rabbits with other young Thai boys on a daily basis; they can have current Thai boyfriends but they rarely seem particularly enduring relationships. But as for us older farang boyfriends living abroad?, well that's a whole different matter. I currently have two 'boyfriends', one Laos, one Thai (who each know about the other). My Laos boyfriend I have known for about ten years now, we video-call every day, and we meet-up whenever I return to Pattaya, but we haven't had sex together for several years; he is much more of a companion now. He now talks quite candidly to me about his other three farang boyfriends; and I am aware that each of us supports him a little bit. He has just about abandoned his bar-boy job in boyztown now, and focusses instead on keeping all four of us happy by daily contact. He is over 30 now and his own sex-drive has dwindled; when he does feel horny he finds another Thai boy who will come and suck his cock, or occasionally fuck him - and he pays them to do so (500 baht manybe). But his English is just about conversational now and he is my daily contact with Pattaya, and when I am in town he is my friend and companion. My Thai boyfriend is the 'boom boom' boyfriend that I have known about six years now. In his late 20s, he is still a horny little bugger and constantly shagging other Thai boys (top or bottom) on an almost daily basis, either individually or at small alcohol fuelled 'parties'. He likes me and happily stays with me on holiday, but I know he drools over other Thai boys (not me! haha) as we are forever chatting about who he has seen that he likes. He is into threesomes with me, and effectively he uses me as an excuse to have sex with the other boys we meet in the bars that we both choose as our third (or occasionally fourth 🤣). I also use him for threesomes in that there are bar boys who will come to my room because they know that they will be having sex with him (as well as me). I fully accept that neither boy will end up pushing my wheelchair here in England in years to come; neither wants to come and live with me in England; they are both entirely happy living where they are, and why not? In Thailand they have their families, their friends, their culture, language and foods. So neither are really my boyfriends in the sense that we might traditionally understand; I am essentially a favoured customer, a status I pay for in one way or another. Of course, if I was an exPat living in Pattaya, available to see them 24/7, then my 'relationship' with either might be entirely different.

GASS GASS is very much a late-night venue. You don’t really start your evening here, you end up here, usually after Silom has already worked you over a bit. Tucked into a more intimate space, above white rabbit bar, it feels immediately different from the larger, more chaotic clubs. Lower ceilings, tighter floor, bodies closer together. There’s a sense that the night has narrowed its focus. Less wandering, more intention. The crowd skews 20s to 30s, well put together, slightly sharper than average. Not necessarily the biggest bodies, but definitely curated, good hair, good outfits, people who’ve chosen where they are and why. There’s a quiet confidence to it. What sets GASS apart is the presence of specially invited go-go dancers. These aren’t freelancers circulating the room. They’re part of the venue’s identity, in the corners, in the light, part of the choreography of the space. You watch them, they perform, but there’s a clear line. It keeps the atmosphere focused, almost theatrical at moments, without tipping into anything transactional. Crowds are invited to participate and touch. Music leans deeper into late-night territory. Less pop, more rhythm. Something you feel in your chest rather than sing along to. The kind of sound that makes conversations shorter and eye contact longer. And that’s really the point of GASS. It’s not sprawling. It doesn’t try to be everything. It compresses the night into something more intense but still fun. You dance closer. You notice more. You stay longer than you planned.

I believe this may partially be the case. I have had two long term relationships, one of which was for ten years with a man from Taiwan. Eventually we lived together in both the US and in Taiwan, but it initially started as a long distance relationship. I am currently in a 'situation' with a Cambodian man who lives in Thailand. Again, this is a long distance arrangement. I also have long time Thai friends. While any relationship requires communication and trust to be successful and long lasting, my experiences have taught me that I cannot expect them to communicate in the exact same manner I am accustomed to or would expect if they were white American men. If that is your expectation, you are in for a rough road ahead. There is a big cultural difference, not to mention the language barrier. Not sure where you are from or your nationality. Unless your guy is fluent in your native language, you both are probably using a translation app on the phone or computer. Unfortunately, these are not always completely accurate and the meaning gets garbled or lost completely. I check, double-check and triple-check everything I send in a message to be sure. I can translate one sentence three times on the same app and it will come out different all three times. I believe you are over-thinking the romance piece. You didn't say what your guy does for work? You also didn't mention how you met. Those pieces of the puzzle might help us respond better to the cheating question. Bottom line...all relationships require communication and trust. Long distance even more so.

wow, so much dirt water thrown at somebody one never even met. Where all that dirt is coming from ? Work on busted main collector or something ?

Alright Maurice keep your wig on don't want to be busting your colostomy bag.

I don’t think so. Everything you’ve mentioned would be a cause of concern to me. I’ll preface my comments by saying this isn’t a criticism of you but notes from personal experience. Attributing relationship red flags to “cultural differences” and overlooking them is at best naive, at worst dangerous. You’ve given us little information to go on. Where did you meet him? In a bar? Was he formerly or even currently a working boy? Or if you met him on Grindr, has he ever accepted payment for hook ups? Does he have other “partners”? This could be cultural or simply down to personality. I’m inclined to say it’s only partly cultural. Thai people are known to be indirect or suppress their feelings (especially when it’s confrontational or uncomfortable) but while not communicative, they’re known to be affectionate and if not by words, by actions. Such as showing commitment to the partnership, never flaking out or making unexpected changes, being contactable nearly all of the time, transparent about who they’re going out with. It could be personality, there’s nothing wrong with being emotionally reserved. But combined with your suspicion he’s not being honest and being uncontactable on nights out, clearly you feel something isn’t right otherwise you wouldn’t be posting here. Gut feelings shouldn’t be ignored. What’s the worst case scenario? He doesn’t have sincere feelings for you at the moment and is with you for his own reasons. Then, do you think he’s genuinely open to building a foundation where his feelings can blossom over time and your worries are slowly erased? There is nothing wrong with this either. I’m in agreement with their other members here who have responded. Unless you’re ready to cut things off, there’s no point overthinking things but for your own sake, be observant and don’t keep giving him a free pass based on “cultural differences” I expect many of your questions will be answered after spending time together in two weeks.

I think you did what is right on both accounts , your reasoning is correct , if family doesn't have money for lavish funeral they should abandon the idea and go by what they have. Deceased can't care less and screw what rest of family and neighbours say. At end of day it's not very smart to get ruined just to keep up with customs and tradition.

Stayed at the Zing many times now, they are totally guest friendly. I usually come downstairs when my guest has arrived to greet them and lead them upstairs to my room. If I see the same boy again, they then usually just make their way straight to my room; they have to pass reception, but that has never been a problem. As to M Bar, I love the place, stuffed full of baht-hungry boys. Most would be all to happy to drink with you and probably to be offed back to your room later. As to the boys on stage, if they are performing/dancing, they will be focussed on that; some may already have customers awaiting them off-stage, but most will be all to happy to accept a drink when their turn on stage is completed. I agree with other posters than you can always ask a waiter about a particular boy if you feel uncomfortable approaching the lad directly. The boys can leave you alone if they think that you are happy with your own company, but break the ice with the offer of a drink or two and you will find yourself having to 'fight them off with a stick' 🤣 I think the basic off-fee is 300 baht, rising to 500 baht for their main stage boys. Tip expectations are usually 2k for Short-Time, but 1.5k can still be negotiated with some boys. There are stage shows at 10pm and midnight, but many of the boys sleep above the bar and will linger inside, and out front for several hours after that. Many a night it has been between 2-3am before my boyfriend and I have trudged our way back to the hotel (either on our own or with a borrowed third for the night) and we have very rarely ever been the last customer to leave.

My guy's grandmother passed away 2 years ago. He was very distraught and asked me to book an air ticket for him from Bangkok to Vietnam immediately the next day. I did as he asked and I offered my sympathies and condolences. After he arrived in Vietnam, he asked me for US$3500 to pay for the funeral. I declined to send him the money. I felt that I had already done my part by booking air ticket for him (about US$300 as it was an urgent booking). I reasoned that the rest of his family should contribute to funeral expenses and not just him. I believe that he feels responsible based on Vietnamese tradition because he is the only son (he has older and younger sisters) in the family. His father is a retired soldier and currently farms on their family land and earns enough just to get by. Finally, my last reason was why do you need such a grand funeral? I felt that my guy and his family wanted a grand funeral for the matriach to impress relatives and neighbours and follow the Asian custom of "saving face". However, I have always been a thrity person and don't believe in extravagant events - whether weddings or funerals. So it was very much a personal stance of mine not to overspend and I stood firm. I did not say my reasons to my guy of course. I just told him that I was unable to provide additional financial help. Our Line conversations became awkward for the next few weeks but we still stayed in touch. There were times when I felt guilty and I questioned myself whether I should have helped him. When we met again in Bangkok a few months later, I said sorry in person to him for not giving him that money for a grand funeral. He said it was ok. He observed the traditional one year mourning period. He avoided celebrations including a birthday celebration I had planned for him in December later that year.

For many clients, the boys are indeed a commodity calling for a clear business component to the transaction. The higher the volume of encounters the more commercial they tend to lean. But whether it's your first time or thousandth, let's never forget the humanity behind this trade wall. These young men certainly deserve courtesy, kindness and respect.

I can confirm, I met christian a few times IRL in Bangkok, Pattaya and Jomtien. And even though I think he is a very nice person, and I love his blog, he NEVER tipped me.

The Bangkok Post ran a story about Thai infidelity three months ago. The article was entitled "Thailand tops global infidelity rates people admit to". So no, to answer your question, the Thais themselves admit they are not very faithful. And as @mima_bk said, that rate of infidelity would likely be multiplied amongst single Thai gay men, since the surveyed individuals were married adults. From the article: "In Thailand, just over half of married adults surveyed, 51%, admitted they had engaged in extramarital sex at least once, placing the Southeast Asian nation ahead of its global peers in this particular measure of relationship behaviour." https://www.bangkokpost.com/life/social-and-lifestyle/3184524/thailand-tops-global-infidelity-rates-people-admit-to.

"The land of smiles". I'd advise any newbie that if he wants a successful meeting, he should start with a smile. And then he will likely end with one.

I think everyone has opinions AND lived experience on this.... men can't be faithful, perhaps for a short time or if you've already had your share of fucking around in your younger years and want to settle down and companionship is more important than wild sex.... but expecting someone much younger than you to be at that stage with you and not fucking around is a pipe dream. Long distance relationships are not viable....better to be reliable fuck buddies/friends. Now can Thai men be faithful, specifically.... like @jimmie50 said, too much missing information in this case, but bet it falls into the above explanation regardless 😉

100% but so many shades of grey to this topic and a mutually beneficial relationship isn’t always an insincere one

Opened this expecting it to be about @Olddaddy and some big black dick 🍆

You only have to be with one who doesn’t have a big dick to be able to say that not every African money body in Pattaya has a big dick.

thank you for thinking about me but no. Since Christian has doubts about his profile as per originating post I wouldn't risk to go that far and get disappointed or worse, misled. When I get reliable notification that guy in question was seen in Bangkok , then we have different situation and yes , I'd consider rushing there as in Bangkok is easy to wipe one's tears after any kind of disappointment

Today is my last day in Japan. I had a great trip. Lots of adventures and lots of fun with the boys. I wanted to share some random tips for anyone coming for a visit. Each time I come here I love it more and I definitely will be back. Suica Card - this is a lifesaver. If you have an iPhone, you have Suica on your phone already under transit cards in your Apple Wallet. There are others, but I use Suica and can recommend it. Just add it to your Apple Wallet and then you can link it to a credit or debit card. Add cash and use it for trains (just tap in and tap out), convenience stores and many other things. It will save you standing in lines at ticket machines and trying to figure out fares. You can add any amount of money to it up to 10,000 yen total. I highly recommend it. Chichibu - one of my favorite places outside of Tokyo. I discovered it because I saw this train - LaView and wanted to ride it. It went to Chichibu. I didn’t know what Chichibu was, but absolutely fell in love with it. The train is absolutely beautiful. Designed by an architect with floor to ceiling windows it whisks you out of Tokyo into the mountains of Saitama prefecture in 80 minutes for about $10 one way (1600 yen). When you get to Chichibu, you can visit a few temples, Chichibu Shrine and then spend a few hours at a beautiful onsen/sento next to the station. I went twice on this trip and stayed overnight the second time. I sat in an outdoor bath in the onsen with cherry blossom snow falling on me. It was absolutely gorgeous. The Sakura Tram - speaking of cherry blossoms, there is this cute little street car that chugs along the backroads of Tokyo through small neighborhoods that is absolutely delightful. It was busy on this trip because of the name and the time of year - yes, it was cherry blossom season and Tokyo was packed. Last summer when I was here, the tram was less crowded on weekdays, used mostly by locals, and more crowded on weekends. One of my favorite stops is Koshinzuka. On the platform of the station is an old sweet shop called Ippukutei. It’s run by a mother and her son. They play US country music and you can sit and watch the tram come and go. They serve simple Japanese sweets and yaki soba with green tea or coffee. I sat there for an hour one day and had the whole place to myself. It is a really special place and I hope the influencers don’t discover it and ruin it. From there, you can walk to Jizo Dori, another very special place. It’s called “Harajuku for Seniors” and is basically and old shopping street that grew up around a temple. The temple - Kogan-ji - is believed to house a deity that removes physical suffering or illness. There is a Kannon statue that people wash. They pour water over the part of the statue that corresponds to the body part that they want healed. It’s a very active temple and it has a deeply spiritual feeling - unlike the carnival atmosphere at some of the more touristy places like Asakusa (I would definitely skip Asakusa and go to Kogan-ji instead if I had limited time). Jizo Dori is also just fun to walk down and browse. There are lots of traditioanl sweet shops, restaurants and a shop that sells red underwear, which is supposed to be good luck (for longevity). You can also reach Jizo Dori from Sugamo Station on the Yamanote Line, or hop on the Yamanote when you’re done wandering. You can get a day pass from the conductor on the Sakura Tram and hop on and off at different stations - the three I have visited are - Kishibojim-mae - a beautiful old temple dedicated to children and childbirth, Koshinzuka (above) - sweet shop and Jizo Dori, and Oji Eki Mae - a beautiful park that you can reach by taking this cute little bubble monorail up the hill. Taking the Sakura Tram is one of the best days of sightseeing I ever spent in Tokyo - you get to see the real Tokyo away from the crowds. A lot has been written about the sauna and gay venues, so I’ll just leave it at this for now. Feel free to PM me if you want more information.

There's so many questions that I haven't answered, we met via Grindr, he isnt a moneyboy or a bar boy like the ones in Silom. He works in a bar that sells weed and alcohol, Ive been to his work and I know he doesn't sell himself there. I was in Krabi in November and that where I met him, he stayed with me for like 6 nights whilst I was there and we kept in contact since. I think I've asked the wrong question really, I think I wanted to know experiences of other falangs who have dated Thai guys before. I have thought about it over the weekend and I think I'll just see how this 2 week holiday goes in May, maybe things will be different when we are together in person.

Maybe he didn’t enjoy the massage

I weirdly got lucky at Arena. One of the guys is a Thai Boxer. I asked him if he gets into rough roleplay and he said yes, so i gave him my Line. I’ll see how it works out

I feel you, i am basically in the same boat like you in your first sentence. I don't think they are faithful, but in my mind he does not have to be. Just try to enjoy what you have with him and what the future brings is always an open question. Don't move there just because of him. If it's for thailand in general, ok; but if it ist because of him then you are in dangerous territory. And speak to him openly about what you want from him and the reason for you to move there. Mine gave honest answers, and this gives me more clarity if and how to move forward. For honesty of thai men in general you may like to google "thai gik culture". Considering gay thai men this is multiplied by 100. They like to hook up often and happily. You have to decide for yourself if you can live with that.

I don't think , or I hope, no-one can disagree with that. Some members here seem to think that sex is a purely mechanical affair, which to my mind is alien.

Good point, Vinapu. MauRICE can make interesting contributions, but there’s definitely a streak of vitriol running through many of his posts. Part of it seems to come from a kind of self‑righteous mindset that is increasing common online: as long as someone holds the “correct” views on Middle East politics, or the “right” opinion on how much to compensate a service provider, then their tone in their postings apparently doesn’t matter — they can still consider themselves the better person. Combine that with a generally sneering attitude toward older white men, who make up the majority of posters on this board, and it’s hardly a recipe for winning friends or influencing people.

I cannot find the fascination some people have for this "sport" - if that it can be called. It ranks for me alongside the American Rodeo horse bareback jumping, as inane a "sport" as I can imagine. But then I suppose Spanish and Americans find croquet and cricket both boring and baffling/

Thank you very much, that's what I was hoping for when started this thread. South India, Indonesia or Philippines, if anyone with their picture chats in Thai, it's a faker! These countries are not my hunting ground*, but if they were in Thailand, Cambodia or Myanmar, I would make an effort to meet them. *Humorous and figuratively, lest readers misinterpret this and say I'm dehumanizing my boys and treat them like animals.

The survey posted above is not accurate. Where's Japan? All my married straight friends fucked around, and their wives knew exactly what was going on. Afterall, they used to settle the monthly bills from the bars. After 6pm big cities become brothels. Sex is available everywhere. Workers go out every night with their colleagues, starting off in a bar, then heading over to a massage parlour for sex. My gay friends who had partners also fucked around every night. And there are host clubs catering mainly to middle-aged women who offer sexual services. Being faithful is not in the Japanese DNA. I guess those who conducted this survey never made it to Japan.

One question would be how old are you and how old is he? What @mauRICE said is true, though I would have worded it less harsh. That you met on Grindr does not make him no moneyboy. Plenty of them are there. And on ThaiFriendly, HeeSay, Hornet, Romeo, etc. Often on all of them. Also I would advise that what you have is not dating, at least not in the Thai sense. There dating is in phases, like being friends, talking-phase / Khon Khui (คนคุย) which is half official, and then maybe being boyfriends (faen). What you have is a simple hookup - which is not bad at all. But don't confuse it with dating. Considering your question on faithfulness: Do you really expect him to live like a monk for months, waiting for you? Do you think that would make him happy? Because that should be your goal in a "relationship". Maybe he does not return your affection because he does not feel it, or maybe he protects himself because you would not be the first farang that just disappears after promising all sorts of things. You may want to look up Jai Yen (ใจเย็น) "cool heart". Best luck to you.

I agree with @jason1975 - you have a way with words and I love it!

I agree with your observations on Thailand. i visited N Iraq a few times about 14 years ago. It was a paradise. On one occasion I hooked up with five guys who formed a pecking order to fuck me in turn. I had to bring off the last two orally as my arse was pounded to oblivion.

It is very difficult to explain how my experience of Ghana was potentially differenet to someone else's. However, let me be clear and humble, I have only been one week in the country and as probably already mentioned, it was my first time in Sub Sahara Africa. I therefore am not entitled to generalise or make assumptions about other people's experiences, countries in the region or whatsoever. The one thing that surprises me though about some of the reactions posted on this blog is that people seem to make the assumption that if being gay is illegal this automatically leads to no gay activity present. Bizarre. On a personal level, I fondly remember my trip to Iran in 2016. I was 31, travelling by public transport, invited into Persian homes (due to the incredible hospitality I had encoountered), so I can say that I have met 'the Persian / Iranian culture' in these three weeks. In my humble opinion: Tehran (and many other places, mainly cities in the country) is a gay paradise. It's all hidden, out-of-bound and underground, which is what it makes it so sexy and a treasure. On a contrary note: the most boring gay-place on earth in my opinon is Thailand. The men are small, average looking, fake and being gay is as commercialised as a slice of pizza in the US. Again, that's an opinion and obviously, utterly subjective. Bottom-line: visit Ghana! It's exotic, in full development, beautiful, easy to travel in and the men look approachable, fit, gorgeous and skilled. Some detail I even forgot to mention in my previous post: take a seat on the sand after 6 pm on Accra's Labadi Beach and count the amountg of men willing to engage with you in an hour. If I were in the mood that week, boy I would have had fun. X

Nothing we can give to someone can replace the loss of a loved one. Our support does help so if that is time, money, or sitting listening to someone talk about the loved one. That is being supportive. Not to long ago one of the boys from brazil that I had met and had fun with. Mother passed away....from what I am not sure. But he was asking people to help him get from germany back to brazil to attend the funeral. I sent him money for airfare. Not enough to pay for a ticket, but something. I wrote Yuri a text let him know I knew how the loss of a parent felt and that if he wanted to vent. I would answer the phone and listen. He was grateful for the support. Sometimes knowing people care is better than financial support.

unnecessary nasty, offensive and belligerent. Exactly kind of post which makes others thinking they should bother with participating in forum. It's better to discuss possible scammers than other members alleged shortcomings. OP came across those two men and decided to warn us about. He even made this disclaimer :

"Colonized" refers to a territory, people, or place that has been taken over, settled, or subjected to control by a foreign nation, often through political, economic, or physical force. Thais are proud to say that their country is the only one in Southeast Asia that was never colonized. Unfortunately, it is being colonized today, not through battles with a foreign power, but by a shrewd and ruthless economic takeover by Chinese investors. We first heard of "zero dollar tours" being conducted in Thailand about 25 years ago, completely organized and run by Chinese companies, with the profits going to China, and not benefiting Thai owned businesses with even one baht per visitor. Now Chinese investors through Thai nominees have destroyed Thailand's coconut industry. The following excellent video from The Nation Thailand explains how Chinese are using Thai nominees to skirt Thai business laws, allowing foreign companies to force Thai owned ventures out of business, and then swoop in and purchase the assets for pennies on the dollar. [Although not specifically a gay topic, many of our forum members who live in or visit Thailand will likely find this video interesting, so I included in the gay Thailand forum.]

Since I met Elixir quite a few times I'm sure it's his own production.

Finally something concrete. It's all untrue! I have never re-used a condom. "He has publically bragged" where, please? Can you please elaborate on "demeaning offers" and "dangerous practices"?

So. Anyone around? 🥹 Staying in jomtien for the first time. Feel so awkward walking past all the bars and you look at someone for 1 second and they want to drag you in and it’s never the one I’m attracted to. So I just end up walking through really fast and then feel weird to go back again. Anyway I’m gonna go get a drink at M Bar and see what happens

Fabulous writing! Bravo!

Arena never disappoints

I think the communication barriers by language tend to be a lot larger than we think, I was hooking up with this guy and his English was nearly perfect; he actually has an advanced degree in the English language, but still there were communication issues. For example, when we were trying to make plans and he asked what I wanted to do I said I'm down for anything and he interpreted that as me saying I don't feel well enough to do anything (as in I'm feeling down) Hell, on Grindr I can't count how many times someone says something to me and I have no clue what the fuck they're trying to say

Is your upcoming trip your first time travelling together? In that case, I would say you are still in the -getting to know each other- phase of exploring a relationship. Spend some of the time travelling together by talking over your mutual expectations for a relationship. I would not expect a long distance relationship to be monogamous, but I know others may have other expectations or assumptions, so it's important to be open about how you look at these things. Enjoy your trip and hopefully your relationship will develop in the direction you hope it to go.

I will start with my last day in Agadir I had 8 tops and three bottoms one after the other in a well known Sauna (Hammam) there. All the sex takes place in the 20 private shower rooms. I used half the rooms myself. There is separate sauna and steam room where the guys eye each other up and grabbed their dicks. I think they are scared to play with each other because once they established I was a foreigner I was the most popular whore there that night. They were suspicious of me at first but once the first big thick dicked guy got brave then word in the sauna spread like wild fire. He was late 30s, real masculine bull who knew how to fuck, 8.5 inches and very thick. It was one after the other after that until it was closing time. Hours of pure hedonism. So many hot young guys all free except the last two. Hot muscly bodies, some normal and skinny, mixed bunch from tanned to pale. Dicks ranging in size from 7 to 9.5 inches. Almost all very thick. A few bottoms were smaller but I don't care too much about size just giving details. Lots of bubble butts. The hottest guy there who was very masculine and I was certain was a top... turned out to be a bottom. I was very surprised but he gave an amazing bj and had the best and most perfect bubble butt, muscular, tall, pale, six pack, gorgeous face and body. Amazing clean and tight hole. His 9 inch dick was rock hard the whole time but he wouldn't let me touch it. I realised at the end why because I grabbed it as I was about the cum in his ass and he just bursted enough cum for a week. Just perfect. I got fucked by two more guys both were fine but didn't last long. Then I fuck another guy with a great ass. He was late 30s and very handsome with beautiful grey eyes. He was rock hard 7 inches and then he flipped abd fucked me. Very good fucker with good motion and thrust. It was just a bit awkward The last two guys worked there and said they would fuck me together for 50 dirhams each, which I obliged. They were cleaning after me for hours already and they scrubbed my body and butt cheeks squeaky clean when first got there. I was groped by several scrubbers in other Hammam. I'm talking touching my dick, balls, butt checks and hole but that was it. Nothing else happened in those other Hammam even though there was a lot of eye contact, bulges being touched, very horny but no action. Anyway, the last 2 guys were both tanned one a shade darker than the order. One medium height, one tallish, both toned bodies. Both cute. Late 20s. One 8 inches and the other 9 inches. Both very thick and great fucks with stamina. Actually, I couldn't take anymore at the end and it was approaching closing time. It was a day for the record books. Never been with so many guys in one day. The owner was a bit stand offish at the beginning but after a nice tip he became very accommodating and hospitable. And that was my last day in Agadir. I wonder if the last two guys had a lot of practice there because the Hammam is well known in the city and was recommended to me by another hot vers guy who is a private masseur. I met him 3 times, decent massage, great fuck, handsome, great body, good English, good conversation, welcoming and friendly . A great guy. Good mix of bottoms, vers and top guys there but almost all want money. Not a lot. The sauna was the only place I wasn't asked for money except the last 2 guys. It wasn't a lot at all so I was fine tipping them. The biggest guy I met on the first night, 11 inches and so thick. He was the thickest I might have ever taken. He was hitting my g spot instantly but didn't last long, and his personal hygiene put me off unfortunately, even after I made him take a shower and he was high as fuck. I was only mildly high and drunk. More about him later. I had a few confrontations but I'm more crazy when met with crazy. This young 19 year old handsome, muscled boy has the best 8 inch cock. It was so curved that it was playing my g spot like a piano. I was literally screaming from pleasure. Then I flipped him and fucked his too tight perfect bubble butt.

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To answer the question, I've seen the 1st guy's profile on RM for guys available in Bali.

Who cares if they don't like you , I'm not there to be thier friend . I hired a guy from the Airtasker app the other day ,. a locksmith for my unit door broke , the price wass paid through the Airtasker app Asian guy ( Chinese) turns up and soon as he is out of the lift the first thing he says ... "oh my parking 🅿️is extra $10 I had to find street parking 🅿️ There was no hello how are you etc it was my parking extra $10. "Who gives a fuck I said . I said who gives a fuck ,we agreed on a quoted price , im not your lover ,im not your friend , fix the lock🔑🔐 and fuck off ! they are the service provider and im the customer, if they agree on a quoted price then I couldn't give a fuck if they like me or not !

Wednesday and Thursday at Lagoa was fun, but nothing extraordinary. it wasnt as crowded as \previous visit, but as we always say, it takes just one or two to make your day. So, I met this incredibly handsome guy from Recife. It was his first time at Lagoa, and we had a fantastic time together. Today, my plans are divided between two things. https://www.zunobar.com/ Zuno bar, opens only Friday to Sunday https://upgradesexclub.com.br/up/teste-insert/ Upgrade, ive been there before It’s been such an adventure! I’m constantly amazed by the number of gay sex places in São Paulo, some of which are quite large. I had a wild Republica tour de force. I visited five movie theaters/cabines, all for sex, and most were empty, possibly because of the time of day. I prefer to spend my afternoon after 4pm at Lagoa. Also, I went to a movie theater called Paris, which one of the Lagoa patrons mentioned to me. It’s located in Republica, right next to that big McDonald’s. Inside, there are viewing booths where some Garoto offers a program, for a cost of a fraction of what the regulars GP charge. As you can imagine, those are not the super model type, so some might find them rough, others might enjoy them. As soon as you enter, they start teasing you with big erections, but I am a bit squmish, so I just enter the cabine with only one this young, 22-skinny guy. There’s also a movie theater in the back, but I just took a quick walk around and it’s not for the easily startled. It’s dark and a bit messy. Cine Arouche Cine Paris Ponto Zen Cine I asked Gemini AI for places with go go dancers and guiys and for late tonight and it was so helpful. and there are people out there taht dont like AI. ilove it. Here is the updated map and list including Espaço Lagoa Sauna, alongside the other bars and clubs we have discussed for your Friday night in São Paulo. Locations for Tonight Espaço Lagoa Sauna A traditional sauna in Consolação that features a theater with drag shows and go-go boys even on Friday evenings. Hot House SP A dedicated show bar in the Centro area known for its resident go-go boys and interactive male stripper performances. Bar Queen An informal bar in Santa Ifigênia hosting the "Cabaré Profano" tonight, which typically includes go-go dancers. Bofetada Club A large multi-floor complex in Jardim Paulista with karaoke and dance floors that often features performers for its "Super Sexta" party. Upgrade Club A sex and cruise club in Vila Buarque featuring "Upgrade Boys" for interactive performances. Zuno Bar A modern cruising bar in Santana. It has a more social "happy hour" vibe early on but closes at 11:00 PM. Dédalos Bar A 24-hour men-only cruising bar in República that occasionally has stage performers. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7] Not Open Tonight Blue Space Closed tonight; its main shows start Saturday at 11:00 PM. Euphoria Closed in São Paulo tonight; their next local event is Saturday in Pinheiros. [8, 9]