Moneyboy does not ask for money?

[mima_bk]

So i met someone via a dating app and spent a few days with him. He ist very sweet and seems to be into me. I found out that he is working as a moneyboy, but he never asked for money... is this common? I paid for food and grabs but that was all.

[12is12]

Since he doesnt ask 4 money, he doesnt "seem" 2 b in2 u; he IS.

Take it as a cmplmnt (-:

[spoon]

How did you find out that he is a working as money boy? Did he tell you? 

[mima_bk]

basically via his social media

[vinapu]

21 hours ago, mima_bk said:

So i met someone via a dating app and spent a few days with him. He ist very sweet and seems to be into me. I found out that he is working as a moneyboy, but he never asked for money... is this common? I paid for food and grabs but that was all.

not common, but not unheard off either.

I think over years I reported at least 4 cases of bar boys who asked me to take them for short trip and all they asked was to pay expenses on the road and their bar fees. One was even so desperate to to have a break  that even offered to pay his off fees to his bar. One Bangkok boy visiting his parents in Cambodia upon learning I'm in Siem Reap also asked  to visit me  there and all he wanted  is to pay for his bus fare.  I still paid them my usual overnight tip but with exception of one , it was clear,  judging by reaction, that they did not expect that.

I still would ask  your boy " can I give you some money ? " as chances are he could be counting on you being bit more generous that just  covering expenses but , yes he could be with you because he liked you and wanted some break. 

[floridarob]

Some money boys play the long game, I see this in Bali A LOT (used to see it in Thailand years ago). In the end they get more than if they were getting a daily fee, the feeling of  being "loved" plays with hearts and wallets... and in the end, they end up with gifts, trips, great restaurants and in the end, doing less work (sex).

Or maybe he likes you.... let us know how it ends or if later requests for money show up.

 

[mima_bk]

thanks for all the answers. in fact i already booked a flight in early january. but this was before i found out. so i think i will see how this plays out. 

[mima_bk]

thanks again, contacted him via "other means":

- not on PrEP
- condom only
- no kiss/suck (what he did already XD)
- short time 1500
- long time 3000

Will check him out anyway haha.

[mima_bk]

I would have preferred if he had told me the first time to be honest. Because he would have been BF material.

 

[mima_bk]

so @floridarob was right XD

[Londoner]

A Pattaya guy once said "too much" when I gave him his cash.  Did I give him more than the going-rate? No. Or perhaps my performance was so earth-shatteringly good that he thought I deserved a free ride. No....that doesn't sound like me either.

Most likely he was showing Buddhist compassion for an old guy who was obviously past his best.

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[mima_bk]

idk, this guy is still texting me daily. but this is still not honest, i think. what do you guys think.

 

[vinapu]

2 hours ago, mima_bk said:

so @floridarob was right XD

it would be surprising if such serial boy hunter was wrong

[vinapu]

2 hours ago, Londoner said:

A Pattaya guy once said "too much" when I gave him his cash.

.

Happened to me  on at least 2 occasions. One even gave me back 500 which I took and when we had last hug I slipped it back to his underwear in kind of 'back vinapu tuck"

[vinapu]

2 hours ago, mima_bk said:

idk, this guy is still texting me daily. but this is still not honest, i think. what do you guys think.

 

if you like him and enjoy his company go for it. Keep in mind he could be looking for ways of getting off money boy route by seriously hooking up with somebody for good.

Even if not,  remember my father saying ' prostitutions is work like any other and at least is not dusty" .

Dishonest would be if he told you he is not a money boy and still ask you for money at end of session. But other way around ? looks like he was feeling charitable toward you because he liked your company.

[ChristianPFC]

Did you meet him in Pattaya or Bangkok? (Bangkok as per sub-forum?) 

Does he have a regular job? Obviously not, else he couldn't spend days in a row with you. 

There are guys who ask for money as a side hustle, they might go with people they like for free, and ask others for money. But they would have a regular job. 

The fact that he can go for days with you without asking for money is a good start. He must have saving and be in control of his money. Many boys I know, money boys or fun for free with me, are always short of money and just couldn't afford (even if you pay for travel and food, they would have rent or other things to pay). 

It happens, but is rare. This year I had one case in Pattaya where a boy came to my room and from his profile I would assume he is money boy,  but afterwards he was dressed and out quicker than I could reach for my wallet. 

[floridarob]

1 hour ago, ChristianPFC said:

but afterwards he was dressed and out quicker than I could reach for my wallet. 

Not sure that reads as a compliment 🧐

[jimmie50]

You will recall from my October/November trip report that I met a young man via Grinder who was employed full time at one of the large Thai banks who wanted to be boyfriends, but also wanted a monthly contribution from me of $1000 USD!  It started out innocently enough without any request for money, but eventually that did come up.  I do not know if he could be called a 'money boy', but hindsight makes me think it is at least a side hustle.  

On the other hand, I met a really nice therapist at one of the massage shops who has continued to maintain contact with me and we have made plans to spend time together when I return to Bangkok in February.  Not once has he mentioned money or asked for a single thing.  It would appear he simply enjoys my company.  

[hank75]

49 minutes ago, jimmie50 said:

 I do not know if he could be called a 'money boy', but hindsight makes me think it is at least a side hustle.  

Don’t think it is a “side hustle” but rather he is looking for sugar daddy to subsidize his lifestyle. Working in a bank, he must have appearances to keep up in front of his peers: stylish clothing, haircut, dinners out and going to clubs or bars. Maybe he wants cash for domestic tourism or branded items. The question is how many boyfriends aka sugar daddies does he actually have 

[hank75]

1 hour ago, floridarob said:

Not sure that reads as a compliment 🧐

I thought the same 😅

[jimmie50]

4 hours ago, hank75 said:

The question is how many boyfriends aka sugar daddies does he actually have 

Very true, but I am definitely not one of them!  lol.  Not what I was looking for.  Ended up having to block him on my return to Denver.  Have to give him an 'A' for effort, as he certainly was a persistent little devil.  

[vinapu]

10 minutes ago, jimmie50 said:

 Have to give him an 'A' for effort, as he certainly was a persistent little devil.  

excellence comes with practice

[jason1975]

14 hours ago, mima_bk said:

thanks again, contacted him via "other means":

- not on PrEP
- condom only
- no kiss/suck (what he did already XD)
- short time 1500
- long time 3000

Will check him out anyway haha.

I don't understand "other means".

[jason1975]

2 hours ago, jimmie50 said:

Very true, but I am definitely not one of them!  lol.  Not what I was looking for.  Ended up having to block him on my return to Denver.  Have to give him an 'A' for effort, as he certainly was a persistent little devil.  

Sometimes it is prudent to cut our losses when it comes to certain guys no matter how happy the memories we had with them during those short moments.

[vinapu]

13 hours ago, jason1975 said:

Sometimes it is prudent to cut our losses when it comes to certain guys no matter how happy the memories we had with them during those short moments.

+1

I couldn't say it better