floridarob Posted 2 hours ago Posted 2 hours ago 10 hours ago, jimmie50 said: He has helped them all over the years so can certainly be kept busy. Nice, sounds like he won't be one of the lazy ones that expects you to support him, I like that. The downside, when he's busy, those workdays are longer than we're used to..... less time you will see him, and as you (we) get older, time is the one thing we have less of 🥺 Mavica and vinapu 2 Quote
zoomomancs Posted 1 hour ago Posted 1 hour ago 11 hours ago, jimmie50 said: He will help his father on the family farm, and wants to expand that beyond rice and sesame seeds to raise goats and turtles. He also plans to work construction with his brother. He has done a fair amount of research about raising turtles and showed me what is involved. Compared to other things, it isn't too expensive or complicated. I know a little about goats and can help with that. For years I took my students to a goat farm once a week to work as vocational training and learned a considerable amount of what is involved. His oldest sister and her husband have a shop...small market; his middle sister has a food cart; the youngest sister is a seamstress. He has helped them all over the years so can certainly be kept busy. I hope it's different for you but when I have had 'relationships' with men in Asia over the last 16 years the requests for cash help start arriving, some from them and some from their families. You have mentioned the hopes for a new house for the family and expanding the family farm to raise goats and turtles. Filial piety is strong in Cambodia. Then there are emergencies, like urgent medical reasons and crashed motorbikes. Our urge to help when we see people in need is noble - but every step we make can advertise how wealthy we seem in their eyes. I once asked a Vietnamese lad, who I sent modest amounts of cash to, if his father knew who I was. He replied: 'He knows who you are when you send Western Union'. Mavica 1 Quote
