I too used to have some reluctance taking Vietnamese boys from bars; they seemed a bit too direct and transactional. Even then, I was uncomfortable with those thoughts because at an intellectual level, it didn't feel right. People from all countries span the gamut of behaviours. My sample size was extremely small by comparison; it simply wasn't fair.

Then I found lovely Vietnamese guys (personality-wise) in the Bangkok massage parlours, and in the last few years, been visiting Vietnam more, and I no longer think as I did. There are all sorts.

The likely explanation why some members here may think of Vietnamese as somehow different may be because you're meeting them in gogo bars, where hustling is the name of the game. Perhaps, they are just better at hustling than their more laid-back Indochinese neighbours (by the way, I use the term Indochinese to include Thailand and Burma). The Chinese too are very good at hustling, in my experience, but if you get past that or if your interaction with them doesn't involve that, they're wonderful people.

Let me give you an example. In Thailand, after a certain kind of touristic show, the performers in their costumes are in the lobby allowing you to take pictures with them. I have had at least 2 experiences in China where, yes the performers were there and they were in costumes, but they were selling souvenir merchandise. I never found out if buying something (at obviously inflated prices) was the ticket to getting a photo taken.

Personally, I love seeing the variety in this world.

2 hours ago, hank75 said:

Which other bars now have a higher proportion of Vietnamese apart from Goodboys?

I would say Fresh Boys!

3 hours ago, a-447 said:

Come on, Olddaddy.

You can't even get a simple hand job for that in Australia.

True, I was paying 300 or 400 AUD in Sydney 

3 hours ago, hank75 said:

For this reason too I have never offed a Vietnamese though I’ve taken a couple drinking before. Reports from here but also from friends. I do miss the gang of Vietnamese boys at Jupiter who were cute as buttons and very entertaining. Seems there are none left there. Which other bars now have a higher proportion of Vietnamese apart from Goodboys?

 

3 hours ago, Novarunner said:

For what it is worth (not much) I would just like to say that I met a Vietnamese guy on Grindr during my last trip to Bangkok.  He was kind of amazing and we still chat periodically.  Also, if you like gay saunas, Nadam Spa in HCMC is among the best anywhere and filled with hot Vietnamese guys that were generally agreeable to doing things with this non-Vietnamese guy when I was there in January.  The food in Vietnam is also incredible.

I should probably apologize for this stream-of-consciousness-ish post but I feel like someone has to stick up for Vietnam.  Especially with country itself, I’ve had nothing but great experiences.  The gay scene and sex aren’t in your face all the time as is frequently the case in Bangkok but for those that are looking, it’s certainly available.

Generalisations are not helpful. I offed a Vietnamese guy, from Goodboys, and he was really good.. He has become a regular, though he no longer works in a bar. Happy with 3somes, good English, great sex!

1 hour ago, Keithambrose said:

True, I was paying 300 or 400 AUD in Sydney 

to @Olddaddy 😳

I like Vietnamese men and I have known dozens of them since 2014 when I met 6 of them working at BBB Inn on Rama IV. But I don't want to do that much in bed which helps, as most of them are straight. I reckon a few are bisexual from their enthusiasm doing it. I find Thai rent men can be a bit primped and queeny for me while Vietnamese men are more 'lads next doorish' and I find them fun. Maybe it's the lure of the straight bloke. I haven't had a problem with thefts. 

3 hours ago, Keithambrose said:

True, I was paying 300 or 400 AUD in Sydney 

Well that was silly ,I was available for 50 .

 

4 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

Well that was silly ,I was available for 50 .

 

Yeah, but you don't kiss!

BTW, do you spit or swallow! (Asking for a friend).

10 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

Well that was silly ,I was available for 50 .

 

Luckily I still have my sight..

17 hours ago, zoomomancs said:

I like Vietnamese men and I have known dozens of them since 2014 when I met 6 of them working at BBB Inn on Rama IV. But I don't want to do that much in bed which helps, as most of them are straight. I reckon a few are bisexual from their enthusiasm doing it. I find Thai rent men can be a bit primped and queeny for me while Vietnamese men are more 'lads next doorish' and I find them fun. Maybe it's the lure of the straight bloke. I haven't had a problem with thefts. 

I am a fan of them as well! I have known my guy for 10 years. I also know many famous Vietnamese songs because I take him and his friends to karaoke. But I can only say 5 Vietnamese phrases. 🤣

1) xin chao

2) cam on

3) cha buoi sang

4) anh yeu em

5) mot hai ba yo

On 6/11/2026 at 11:55 AM, rockeroy said:

I would say Fresh Boys!

That used to be true. Not so much anymore, but you still find some there.

2 hours ago, Enchanted_Elixir said:

That used to be true. Not so much anymore, but you still find some there.

Geez ,some still there? ....they wouldn't be very fresh , probably look like you now 👴👴

2 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

Geez ,some still there? ....they wouldn't be very fresh , probably look like you now 👴👴

Yes, and with saggy arses just like you.

4 hours ago, Enchanted_Elixir said:

Yes, and with saggy arses just like you.

Hairy...as he proudly says 

On 6/11/2026 at 4:57 PM, Olddaddy said:

Well that was silly ,I was available for 50 .

 

As in cents?

4 hours ago, BjornAgain said:

As in cents?

Or Vietnamese  dong?

10-15 years ago, I had several negative experiences with Vietnamese money boys in Bangkok. Friends and forums reported similar. One friend summed it up nicely: they ask a lot (of money), but do very little (in bed).

Whereas the several Vietnamese I met for free online in Bangkok or Vietnam all fine. 

On 6/15/2026 at 12:19 AM, ChristianPFC said:

10-15 years ago, I had several negative experiences with Vietnamese money boys in Bangkok. Friends and forums reported similar. One friend summed it up nicely: they ask a lot (of money), but do very little (in bed).

Whereas the several Vietnamese I met for free online in Bangkok or Vietnam all fine. 

Well, that's exactly my theory. They're actually like any other people around the world, but when they have to hustle, they hustle hard.

I read something similar by a straight guy about Vietnamese money girls.