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Guest Paladze

Hello,


I have a boyfriend and he’s gonna move to another city for 6 months. :sad: Don't think that I’m obsessed, but I don't want to lose him, because he’s my only love. Could you please help me and advise which app to choose to remotely keep an eye on him!? Maybe somebody use such apps? 


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Guest abang1961

I think you are rather insecure.

You need to trust him and/or believe he is a saint!

 

Out of sight, out of mind....that is so old.. with modern technology, you can add his phone to your "Find my phone" app.

Then you can monitor his whereabouts any time...

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As this is a Gay Thailand forum, I assume this is a Thai guy we are speaking of.  If so, why worry.  If you are good to him, he will be back.

 

I guess I got lost in the worry over what someone is doing when I am not there phase years ago.  I like my own freedom and I want my partners to have theirs.  I think only fair.

 

I have been with my 2 guys from Thailand for well over 10 years.  Both are great and live with others when I am not there.  They have sex with who they want and they do where they want and they spend money where they want.  The last of the 3 is the one that hurts me the most as one of them I just can't seem to stop spending money on his mother. But, I have accepted it and moved beyond it 10,000 times over. (I guess that means I have not fully moved beyond but I do try)

 

What are you worried he will do? 

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I assumed this post was a joke / troll etc ( perhaps not ?) and then laughed at the idea of a "Stalking type App" as mentioned and THEN googled it and much to my surprise many such apps DO in fact exist that once easily messaged to your partner then feeds you back just about a double of everything they've said, seen, sent, read and just about everything else on their phone over long periods and all in an easy to read "dashboard" that you can monitor almost live !

 

Time to start checking back exactly what "message" my BF's have been sending to me over the years and think back about all the things and people I've said and done ! ( alternatively fuck them, if they're that insecure and jealous where they felt the need to spy on me I hope they read some shit that wrecked their minds for a while and that will maybe teach them not to do THAT again ( OP take note if you WERE serious in your original query!)

 

Oh and before you ask no, I'm not giving you the App's name - they're all there within a few clicks on Google if you're really that way (retarded) inclined.

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I assumed this post was a joke / troll etc ( perhaps not ?)

 

Well, there so many posts from brand new members that almost seem designed to provoke outraged responses & a bun fight.  So I see where you are coming from with that....

 

As for the OP, whatever happens, there are plenty more boys on the planet.   So if the worst comes to the worst, just try a few more out.

 

Here is a fine example of what else is out there.  Enjoy.

 

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To be fair if I was banging the above I wouldn't need an App to monitor him as anytime he wasn't on top of me or under me he'd be chained to the radiator in the bedroom awaiting my eventual return ! lol

 

( ha ala Boy George in New York when off his head on Coke when a rent boy crossed him over some minor matter such as payment it seems, resulting in him having to pick up litter from the streets of New York in an orange jump suit for a month or two :-)

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To be fair if I was banging the above I wouldn't need an App to monitor him as anytime he wasn't on top of me or under me he'd be chained to the radiator in the bedroom awaiting my eventual return ! lol

That's the way to do it ! 

 

As for the Rent boy, I wonder why he had to chain the guy to the radiator?   Was he dumb enough to have paid up front?   The more sensible approach is to pay at the end, then if agreed services are not provided & there was never any intent to do so, there is no need to pay.   Thankfully, only a minority get to that stage.

 

Of course, in Europe we do have the awkward minority who demand extra money to leave the premises & try other dishonourable ways of renaging on agreements.   However, they just need to be booted out of the door by force.

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Apparently he thought the guy had hacked into his computer during a previous meet ( which the guy denied) he then paid him 300 of the 400 dollars they'd agreed and asked him back, then handcuffed him to the wall and beat him up and threatened him with sex toys ( as you do lol) and told him he was going to get what was coming to him ( don't we all say that in those circumstances ? ) but the guy managed to escape and ran down the street screaming ( drama queen !) and George got a 15 month ! sentence ( I didn't realise it was that long actually ! )

 

Heres a link - although it's from the Daily mail so probably only about 20% of it is true of course........

 

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1119427/Drug-crazed-idiot-Boy-George-jailed-15-months-chaining-male-escort-wall-beating-him.html

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Guest Paladze

I wrote my story here because I knew my bf would not visit this site. We all understand that men are polygamous and there is no difference if he is a gay or straight. But it does not mean that it is normal when your bf cheats on you. It is very painfull to know that somebody betrays you.

I talked to him about my worries. And we quarrelled.  

I know it is not right to spy on him. But this is the only way for me to be calm. I googled spying apps but there are plenty of them. And don't know what is really good. That's why I decided to ask here. I believe I'm not the first who want to use such app and I will be thankfull for you advices

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Hello,

I have a boyfriend and he’s gonna move to another city for 6 months. :sad: Don't think that I’m obsessed, but I don't want to lose him, because he’s my only love. Could you please help me and advise which app to choose to remotely keep an eye on him!? Maybe somebody use such apps? 

 

I can say only if there's no trust , there's no love. 

Would you like your boyfriend to use the same App to track what you are doing?

 

Where world is going to I wonder, but what do I know?

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But it does not mean that it is normal when your bf cheats on you. It is very painfull to know that somebody betrays you.

 

"Cheats" on you?  "Betrays you?"  If this isn't some sort of hoax, and assuming the age difference between the two of you can be measured in decades, instead of simply trusting your boyfriend, you want to stalk and spy on him and are actually trying to find software to help you do it.  What a wonderful relationship it must be, especially for him.

 

You know what I would do if I were him? I'd head for the nearest 7-Eleven and get a new telephone number - and not let you know what it is.

 

Ok, suppose you find the app you're looking for and suppose you'll know exactly where he is at all times.  How is that going to tell you what he's doing and who he's doing it with?  Suppose he's someplace you've decided you don't want him to be.  What are you going to do, send a message to him telling him to leave?  Suppose you find out that he really is having sex with somebody.  So what?  He's supposed to give up enjoying his life for the next six months because of some contrived sense of loyalty that you dreamed up?  What will you do, first cry and then dump him?  If you do dump him, based on what I'm reading that would be one of the luckiest days of his life.  "the only way for me to be calm."  That has to be one of the most selfish statements I've ever read on any of these boards.

 

Are you truly expecting a young guy, or even an older guy for that matter, to be somewhere else for six months and abstain from sex just because you're not there to have it with him?  Suppose he does have sex with others.  Why shouldn't he?  I hope he does and when you start complaining about it, due to your own incredible selfishness, I hope the first thing he does is tell you to screw off and to go try to control somebody else's life.

 

If you're that worried about it, I have a solution for you.  Go with him.  Then you can follow him everywhere.  He'll be delighted.

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I had an ex that wanted to know where i was at all times. I let him put a location ping on me ... and yet he still asked me constantly where i was and for a photo to show who i was with ... if i wasnt at the gym or at home. 
I put up with it for a very long time (years) but eventually i tired of the distrust and we couldnt carry on. After we broke up, i started using gay apps (during the relationship, i didnt have a smartphone so no apps), and in the apps i said i wasn't ready for any relationships and didnt want any hook ups ... just friends. After he saw my profile, he tried everything to get me back saying he finally trusted me. 

I've moved on. 

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Apparently he thought the guy had hacked into his computer during a previous meet ( which the guy denied) he then paid him 300 of the 400 dollars they'd agreed and asked him back, then handcuffed him to the wall and beat him up and threatened him with sex toys ( as you do lol) and told him he was going to get what was coming to him ( don't we all say that in those circumstances ? ) but the guy managed to escape and ran down the street screaming ( drama queen !) and George got a 15 month ! sentence ( I didn't realise it was that long actually ! )

 

Heres a link - although it's from the Daily mail so probably only about 20% of it is true of course........

 

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1119427/Drug-crazed-idiot-Boy-George-jailed-15-months-chaining-male-escort-wall-beating-him.html

 

15 months.  That's quite steep. Presumably the bondage part was not deemed to be part of the regular service then?

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Guest abang1961

Just put it simply, if you trust him, TRUST him wholeheartedly.

If he decides to look around (for fun or otherwise), remember you DON'T own him.

You are NOT in control of his mind and his dick/body.

 

Learn to accept that people have physical needs and as long as his heart and your wallet is in tag, that is already a good sign of things to come.  No discrimination here. 

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You know what I would do if I were him? I'd head for the nearest 7-Eleven and get a new telephone number -

 

Really???  If I were him, I'd head for the nearest 7-Eleven to get free sex, because all the boys there are lusting after my fat ass.

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Guest FatRichard

Learn to accept that people have physical needs and as long as his heart and your wallet is in tag, that is already a good sign of things to come.  No discrimination here. 

 

"In tag"?  Intact, you mean, and an impossibility, surely, in any relationship.  Hearts and wallets are bound to be bruised at some point.

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Yes intact..what do you expect when I start typing with a morning-after headache.

Anyway, TS you don't deserve your bf because you are too possessive,  demanding  and you seem to have very little trust in him...    Just "let it go, let it go........"

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