Popular Post Tomcal Posted May 30, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted May 30, 2021 This year 2021 marks 20 years of going to Brazil, usually 4 times a year, sometimes 5. I wanted to write about some of the friends i have made. this is about “boys” i have met that are now men in successful careers! i have stayed in touch with them . 1) A.F. was a guy who at 19 ended up in Rio from the small town a 100 miles from São Paulo. He is gay and became the boyfriend of one of the sauna owners and a year after that ended, worked in the sauna as a “boy” for about a year and then moved to Paris to be a gogo boy with 2 other sauna guys. about a year after arriving in Paris he could speak conversational French and enrolled in college and 1 year ago graduated with a accounting degree, and looks physically like a beautiful muscle god! 2) in 2013 the manager of Mezziniu sauna in Porto Alegre approached me and asked if i would be interested in a friend of his that was Not a sauna guy but needed to make some extra money that weekend? i told him no that usually guys doing it the first tine are not that good or that much fun! then he said why don’t you just talk to him? He is sitting at the bar in street clothes! He was handsome 21 and attending law school the following year! i saw him every trip i made to Porto Alegre! He became a lawyer 2 years ago, i saw him last a year ago, i remember it well because we were drinking and we had sex 4 times that night, the most ever with one guy in one night! 3) 12 years ago i was in Rio and met who i thought was one of the most handsome guys i had met, he was in his early 20’s and told me he was in college and going to go to med school. It turns out he didn’t go to med school but Dental school and is now a dentist in Rio! Dentists are allowed to give Botox in Brazil and when i was there 3 weeks ago he did a session on me and i have to say he did a great job! I met what was and still is one f the nicest guys ever! a year later he joined the French Foreign legion. At the time he was already a black belt in Brazilian JuJitsu and has been living in the FFL base in Corsica and traveling the world with them! he messaged me yesterday messages me that he has put his 4 years in and is getting out finishing his degree in 1-1/2 years and opening a Brazilian JuJitsu school in France! He is going to a international competition in Mexico next year! there are more stories but these mare my top 4 who i have kept in contact with! here are non face photos of the 4 SolaceSoul, reader, Vessey and 14 others 12 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members msclelovr Posted May 30, 2021 Members Share Posted May 30, 2021 Nice recollections @Tomcal Tomcal 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lonnie Posted May 30, 2021 Members Share Posted May 30, 2021 Wow Tomcal...so many classy and handsome guys...can we change lives for awhile. It speaks to the fact of you being a truly terrific guy yourself to have and maintain such great friendships over the years. Tomcal and Docbr01 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TotallyOz Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 Thanks @Tomcal for the great trip down memory lane and for the sexy photos. I have always enjoyed your stories and the amazing times you shared on the forums. It has brought so many to Brazil. And, I was lucky enough to be there with you and I can say without question that @Lonnie comment about great friendships extends beyond just the guys, but to all the old men (like me) who have met you over the years. Tomcal 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members davet Posted May 30, 2021 Members Share Posted May 30, 2021 Your recollections should shatter many preconceptions about these guys. Were there any guy you were tempted to pursue a more "serious" relationship with? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tomcal Posted May 30, 2021 Author Share Posted May 30, 2021 24 minutes ago, davet said: Your recollections should shatter many preconceptions about these guys. Were there any guy you were tempted to pursue a more "serious" relationship with? Yes i really fell for the dentist i mentioned and it does get complicated for several reasons! He had gone to my home in Mexico 6 times with me over the last 2 years and we actually talked about getting married but i broke up with him 2 weeks ago after getting back from my latest trip to Rio! it was hard but for the best and i do wish him much happiness! Everyone is different and for me the best thing i can do is not being in a long term relationship but rather enjoy the great time Brazil provides! About 2/3 of the guys i see on a given trip are guys i know from previous visits and the majority don’t work in the sauna anymore, so it is more like dates with them! As an example this last trip i was with 21 guy of which 13 were guys i knew from previous trips! tassojunior, Latbear4blk, Ruthrieston and 1 other 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Latbear4blk Posted May 30, 2021 Members Share Posted May 30, 2021 10 minutes ago, Tomcal said: Everyone is different and for me the best thing i can do is not being in a long term relationship but rather enjoy the great time Brazil provides! For me, replace "Brazil" with "life". Even if incidentally I am planning to spend a substantial portion of my future life in Brazil. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babybear2 Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 Curious about your observations over the past 20 years regarding sauna boys? Better in quantity/quality or decline or similar? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tomcal Posted May 30, 2021 Author Share Posted May 30, 2021 1 hour ago, babybear2 said: Curious about your observations over the past 20 years regarding sauna boys? Better in quantity/quality or decline or similar? Initially i didn’t think sauna life would last this long as i started going to the saunas just when places like the Gaiety and Stellas in NTC and Numbers in LA were slowing down, but culturally Brazil was different how they viewed them! they were busy and in fact had 6 saunas in Rio around 2005/6. today both Rio and São Paulo each have 2 to service a metro area of 9 million and 23 Million respectfully! Economics certainly are playing a big part, so the short answer i see them surviving for the next 5 years just because of economics! there are and will continue to be a lot of young Brazilians out of work! Actually cities a lot smaller then Rio or SP have 2 saunas!(Porto Alegre, Belo Horzonte, , Salvador are 3 examples). As far as quality goes that is “in the eye of the beholder”! Certainly Lagoa would multiple Gorgeus guys on any night 15 years ago(and some are still there just more wrinkles)but there are still stunning guys to be found! if i could have shown the faces on the photos i posted i think you would agree! This trip i just got back from i found a stunning guy at Pointe and was told by the owner that was his first night working and he was amazing! I admit that 5 of the guys i currently see there do not work the saunas or online. They have regular jobs and see me when they have free time to meet up and they do cost about $50,r more then the sauna guys, but to me they are worth it! Sorry for the long reply! babybear2 and msclelovr 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Riobard Posted May 30, 2021 Members Share Posted May 30, 2021 Members here have speculated on the future of Lagoa, Point, 117, etc. Online competition. Altered social engagement contexts. The population and age pyramid trends point to an overall increasing growth of 15% from 2010-2030. Moreover a marked increase in the so called ‘silver economy’ demographic. That is, significantly increasing numbers of middle-age-and-up queer men outgrowing nightclub options, if that was even their thing, and needing a more conventional, beyond virtual, outlet on weekend evenings. Many are single, with few socializing opportunities within their orientation. All this likely transcending the ravages of COVID. Savvy business in Brazil is mindful of the bulging proportional population share of older folks. I think there will be constancy in demand for a range of entertainment venue outings. I am counting on it. FullSizeRender.mov Latbear4blk 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TotallyOz Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 21 hours ago, Tomcal said: About 2/3 of the guys i see on a given trip are guys i know from previous visits and the majority don’t work in the sauna anymore, so it is more like dates with them! As an example this last trip i was with 21 guy of which 13 were guys i knew from previous trips! Nice. But, you do know that leaves 8 new guys and that is more than I can handle in a 2 week trip. Lonnie 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tomcal Posted May 31, 2021 Author Share Posted May 31, 2021 :-) What can i say? i love Brazll!! My next trip there will be in August! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members endlessdream Posted June 1, 2021 Members Share Posted June 1, 2021 Seriously? The foreign Legion of France? Isn’t that for desperate ones? Just kidding. But we do have some urban legends about them. Do you know why he did it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caeron Posted June 1, 2021 Share Posted June 1, 2021 Sorry to hear you and the Dentist didn't work out. I was rooting for you. Lucky 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tomcal Posted June 1, 2021 Author Share Posted June 1, 2021 3 minutes ago, caeron said: Sorry to hear you and the Dentist didn't work out. I was rooting for you. It’s a ongoing thing! Heck He calls every evening to me and never say never, but i think the chances of getting back together are less then 10% caeron and TotallyOz 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lucky Posted June 2, 2021 Members Share Posted June 2, 2021 @tomcal has also managed to avoid COVID in Brazil. Congratulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tomcal Posted June 2, 2021 Author Share Posted June 2, 2021 3 hours ago, Lucky said: @tomcal has also managed to avoid COVID in Brazil. Congratulations! I have been to Brazil 3 times and mexico twice in the last year and feit as safe is i did in SoCal with the precautions being taken in both countries! although i was probably most nervous in Cancun(not in Merida)! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Vanbcanthony Posted June 2, 2021 Members Share Posted June 2, 2021 Two takeaways from Tomcal's post. 1. He uses Botox! I'm actually surprised. 2. Someone who can give you free Botox injection is worth keeping. lol Riobard 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tomcal Posted June 2, 2021 Author Share Posted June 2, 2021 2 hours ago, Vanbcanthony said: Two takeaways from Tomcal's post. 1. He uses Botox! I'm actually surprised. 2. Someone who can give you free Botox injection is worth keeping. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members msclelovr Posted June 3, 2021 Members Share Posted June 3, 2021 Does the above post @Tomcal mean that, in response to the quoted post, you are lost for words ? Latbear4blk and Riobard 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NIrishGuy Posted June 3, 2021 Share Posted June 3, 2021 On 6/1/2021 at 7:26 PM, caeron said: Sorry to hear you and the Dentist didn't work out. I was rooting for you. At least he was sure of a good drilling ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Riobard Posted June 3, 2021 Members Share Posted June 3, 2021 5 hours ago, msclelovr said: Does the above post @Tomcal mean that, in response to the quoted post, you are lost for words ? Botox side effect; paralyzed facial muscles, cannot open mouth, typing fingers engaged in attempts to pry mouth open ... relationship breakdown. Lonnie, Latbear4blk and traveller123 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TotallyOz Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 On 6/2/2021 at 9:49 PM, Tomcal said: I have been to Brazil 3 times and mexico twice in the last year and feit as safe is i did in SoCal with the precautions being taken in both countries! although i was probably most nervous in Cancun(not in Merida)! Why? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
floridarob Posted June 4, 2021 Share Posted June 4, 2021 2 hours ago, TotallyOz said: Why? Cancun is where every "Ugly American" goes to vacation.....they are in Kaos, So many cases of Covid, no one follows rules, is a free for all.... On that note, Merida is also in Red stage but because there are elections Sunday, no politician wants to close anything, smh TotallyOz 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members scott456 Posted June 6, 2021 Members Share Posted June 6, 2021 As I remember, election Sunday in Mexico means no selling alchohol starting on Saturday (hence bars/clubs are all closed) until election is over on Sunday. Lonnie and floridarob 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
