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Before discovering Thailand as a gay holiday destination 25 years ago I used to travel to Spanish resorts with a couple of pals eventually settling on Playa del Ingles on the island of Gran Canaria for its vibrant night life and gay/nude section on Maspalomas beach. I never paid for sex - we just socialised with guys from all parts of the world and it just happened (sometimes in the dunes keeping an eye open for the cops) That changed when we were recommended to try Thailand in particular pattaya where everything was low priced with the U.K. pound buying 70 baht and delicious Thai boys available all night for 1000. I never went back to Playa del Ingles !. I must have spent a fortune on Asian boys since as a gay sex tourist - but its been a great investment, especially as I’m no longer young and not attractive now 

Day 17 in Da Nang – 10 May 2025 Wake up feeling melancholy – as I have that feeling that after 3 years as a new retiree – things are not quite as I had hoped that they would be.  I try to shake myself out of this mood by looking on the bright side of things: I am not stuck back in the USA on my reduced pension (I retired early) in a high cost country like the USA, which would be to live a poor minimalistic lifestyle, I am living in South East Asia, which had been my dream since my first work travel mission to Dhaka and Bangkok, back in 2012, Even with a reduced pension, I am able to live quite comfortably – as long as I stay within the confines of Asia – as life back in the USA and Europe are very expensive, relatively speaking. I post my 9 May trip report update – which meant to rehash everything that happened from yesterday. Afterwards, it is already mid-afternoon and I head back to  - I am definitely a creature of habit.  But their bagel sandwiches are so good and the barista, a very cute Vietnamese guy and so my type, prepares a very tasty and creamy salt coffee. Today the lobby is calm so I could eat and enjoy my bagel in peace. I head over to the beach for a nice walk on the promenade and there is this part of the beach walkway that is decorated in a VERY patriotic way: Seeing this makes me reminiscent of my early childhood, when we still had to practice civil defense drills, where depending on the drill, we had to either put our heads down on our desks to protect ourselves from an imminent attack, as the air aid siren was screaming in the background, -OR- we had to run down into the basement of the school into the designated civil defense area (like a bunker) – which I was always fascinated with as there were these humungous barrels of protected water and big storage areas of powdered milk, which we were told could help us to survive 10 years down there.   I was a child in elementary school and I always found this to be crazy, as anything associated with the color red or any of the communist symbols  was to be considered as “bad” or of being as our “enemy” - as the propaganda was very strong in that period. The irony is that now I find myself enjoying my retirement in a communist country = Vietnam and I love it.   20250510_161805.mp4   What is amazing in most Asian seaside towns is the vast abundance of seafood on offer. I grew up on Long Island, New York on the seaside, and we just did not have the variety of seafood that I find here in Asia.  Perhaps we had 15 to 25 types that were available to us, but here in Da Nang I see 50 types or more.  In many of the seafood restaurants, you enter into the giant aquarium area and you tell the waiter/waitress which seafood you want to eat by pointing to the specific aquarium and indicate which sea creature within the aquarium that you want to eat – it is all fascinating – as there are sea creatures that I have never seen in my entire life available for consumption. After a long walk on the beach, I head back to the room for a mini-nap and I try to find some guys to hook-up with – but I was not successful, as they either disappeared during the chat session or after a few exchange of pictures they don’t want to go with an guy with a belly.  They are very anti-belly here in Da Nang and perhaps back in Pattaya / Jomtien the guys “fake” to tolerate our bellies – as Supertown is full of us elderly with bellies walking around.  What I find funny, is how some of the Vietnamese guys in the apps will state that he is fat or has a belly and in my mind he is still in the realm of fit or skinny – so they are hypersensitive to fatness.  It is very rare to see any overweight Vietnamese here. After my nap I head back to  where I order the lamb enchiladas with a mango margarita.  It was perfect. Later, I walk around the neighborhood and then head back to my condo and I chat with one of my Thai friends who is complaining that this low season is very bad and that in Pattaya everything has dried up.  I tell him that he and his Thai  friends need to push back on this current Thai government, as it is this current Thai government that has made Thailand appear to not be appealing, between the call center scams, tricking well known Chinese citizens into Myanmar, safety concerns with the escalating Southern Thailand insurgency, road/bus accidents, the forced deportation of the 40 Uyghurs back to China and the resulting multi-country backlash, the scandal surrounding the collapse of the SAO (State Audit Office) building during the earthquake, taxation of anyone residing in Thailand for more than 180 days who transfers funds into Thailand, etcetera.  But as usual, my Thai friend(s) always reply that they are helpless.  So I send him a photo of a proud moment from Thai history, when in 2008 the Thai citizenry had had enough with the then current Thai government, and they occupied the Suvarnabhumi airport and shut it down, which gained a ton of global exposure to the problems of Thailand.  I told him, with all of you remaining in passive mode while this current government continues to deteriorate all of your individual futures – you must rise up and complain – otherwise I don’t see a bright future for all of you. https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2024/3/29/thai-court-acquits-dozens-who-shut-down-bangkok-airports-in-2008 I go to bed realizing that I did not make any headway, as this young generation of Thais is not as motivated to fix Thai problems as the proceeding generation of Thais from year 2008 were.  So sad.   End of day 17 in Da Nang – 10 May 2025  

Ive always have this on my ticket the 4 years when i was in the US and im not travelling from thailand.  Mine was with additional S, so SSSS. Guess why?

I love it - then BONGER it shall be. Plus it is a close cousin to its phonetically sounding BONER - which us old guys can still do -- although, sometimes with a little assistance from our friends:    or  

How about just a BONGER index - Barely Older Naughty Gentleman's Easy Retirement!!! LOL!