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  1. 2 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

    Life is a risk, better to go out and with a positive frame of mind and meet people

    Anything wrong with trying to minimize the risk?  Do you want to know who is most at risk?  That's easy - the people who think they're least at risk.

    I've seen it happen much too often - people thinking with their crotch rather than their brain . . .

  2. As kind of an aside, those of you who have been around long enough might remember the Pattaya Gay board, owned by Allen Briggs, and the Dreaded Ned board.  In those days my board and their boards constituted the "Big Three".

    The three of us used to meet regularly, usually at my house, and discuss the board goings on, how we each like to run our boards, what we want to see on our boards, how to handle trolls and other problem posters, etc.  My boyfriend at the time always made lunch for us.

    Now I believe the only board owner actually living in Thailand is me, so such meetings are no longer possible.  I miss that.

    One goal I had, and actually still do, was hoping to get good participation from all the major gay venue areas in Thailand - Chiang Mai, Bangkok, Samui, and Phuket.  That has been a failure and instead my board became "Pattayacentic", mainly because Pattaya is where I live and I rely on those living elsewhere to help provide information about their areas.  I get good participation from Bangkok, once in a while from Chiang Mai, but to this day I don't think I've ever had even one post from anyone living in Phuket or Samui.

    Even now the board owners cooperate with each other and try to help each other when a need arises.

  3. 1 hour ago, Mavica said:

    Gaybutton, I've enjoyed reading your forum for a very long time

    I appreciate that very much.  Each of the "Big 3" gay Thailand forums offer their own unique themes and approaches - which is good.  If all the forums were doing the same thing, then it would all quickly become boring.

    By the way, I should have said the menu I posted is the entire menu.  There are no additional pages.

  4. 11 hours ago, Londoner said:

    The falang is always in the wrong because, had he stayed in his own country, the accident wouldn't have happened.

    Is this something you've heard or read and accepted as fact?  I heard that about 20 years ago.  Doesn't it sound as utterly absurd to you as it does to me?

    I'm living proof that it is just not true, but you are by no means the only one who thinks it is.  It is nothing but a nonsense rumor that somebody started years ago, and as a result many believe it really works that way.  WRONG!  It's another one of those things that is pure horse dung, but if repeated often enough people start believing it.  Can you imagine your insurance company accepting that idea?  It's right up there with the belief that Thais don't get upset when someone close dies because of their belief in the next life.  Go to a Thai funeral.  Then tell me all about how they don't get upset.

    Twice I was involved in accidents, one in which the Thai driver of the other vehicle suffered a broken bone, and in both instances the police blamed and fined the Thai driver - not me.  And so, by the way, did his insurance company.  I also know of other accidents involving farang and the Thai driver was blamed.

    Just like it is supposed to be, if you are at fault, you'll be blamed.  If the Thai driver is at fault, the Thai driver will be blamed.

    The idea that "the farang is always in the wrong because, had he stayed in his own country, the accident wouldn't have happened" is absolutely ridiculous.  I can't cite a single verified instance when that ever happened and I doubt either can you or anyone else - and for a very simple reason.  It never happened. 

    Don't forget - if you stayed in your own country you wouldn't have been the victim of a pickpocket, wouldn't have been shortchanged by a baht bus driver, wouldn't have had the wrong order served to you at a restaurant, and wouldn't have offed a boy who turned out to be a dud.

    Oh, I nearly forgot - how careless of me - it was Trump who really won the election . . .

  5. 2 hours ago, Londoner said:

    one of the rules of etiquette concerning meals is that it is not considered good manners to gobble-up every scrap that you are offered at dinner  since it implies that you are not satisfied with the portions provided.

    I've never heard the one about the rice, but I have heard the one about leaving some on your plate.  I also know it's something someone just made up years ago and somehow it stuck.  It's not true.

  6. 2 hours ago, PeterRS said:

    Isn't that one of the great joys of Thai food - the variety you can enjoy at each meal?

    It certainly is.  For me it took a few years to be able to handle eating the spiced up foods, but now I can.  That makes it even better for me and better for my Thai friends who no longer have to order special for me.  Whatever they eat, I eat too (although half the time I have no idea what the hell it is - and I may be better off not knowing).

  7. 8 hours ago, reader said:

    Had that happen with one guy on last trip. Ordered multiple dishes and didn't finish any.

    Was it a Thai restaurant?  If it was, ordering 3 or 4 dishes is the norm.  Only rarely do they order only one dish, especially if it's dinner time and for sure if someone else is paying.  In farang restaurants the meal usually includes other items, such as potatoes and vegetables and it's your own food. 

    In Thai restaurants what you order is what you get.  The meal doesn't come with anything unless you order it.

    I quite often eat with Thais in Thai restaurants.  Nobody ever orders a meal for himself.  They always order several items and everybody shares.

  8. 5 hours ago, Olddaddy said:

    Would you do it all again and same place ?

    I have posted this many times - yes, I would - without the slightest hesitation or second thought.  I love living in Pattaya and wouldn't dream of living anywhere else.  I'm living where my first choice for a holiday would be.  And for me, that has nothing to do with the bars and availability of sex.  I also have never been interested in luxury living.  I don't need or even want hotels such as Le Negresco.  Even in Bangkok I am perfectly happy staying at the Malaysia Hotel - a place some think of as a dump.  I truly believe if I were ever fortunate enough to become a billionaire I would still prefer to live exactly as I do now.  But at least I wouldn't have to worry about that fucking 800,000 baht in a Thai bank account requirement . . .

    That's me.  People have to make their own decisions.  I've known my share of people who also chose to live in Pattaya, grew to hate it, and left.  That is why I always say when people first come to live in Pattaya they should make sure to leave themselves an escape route in case it doesn't work out.  I've also known people who wanted to get out, but burnt all their bridges and now have no place to go.

    Best piece of advice I can offer is to learn to speak as much Thai as possible, even before going to live in Thailand.  The ability to speak the language is an enormous help.  Again, speaking only for myself, I have never even tried to learn to read it.  There is more than enough English that makes reading it unnecessary (for me).  And it doesn't take long to pick up on the way most Thais who can speak some English do speak it.  Many of us call it "Thainglish".

    Maybe one difference I would choose - and at my stage of the game I'm getting very close to deciding to do it - is hire a maid (or houseboy).  I'm getting tired of doing all my own chores - everything from doing my own laundry to picking up after my dog.  The idea of a maid sounds better every time I hear it.

     

     

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